The Ultimate Anxiety Cure

5 December 2017

 

Hello everyone,

 

If you’ve read my blog at any point or another, you recognize that I am a Christian, a woman of faith. I know that many of you out there don’t believe the same thing I do, but my hope and prayer is that though my words within either my blog or within my own novels, I may be successful in convincing at least one of you to at least give God a chance.

 

Anxiety is a depressing word, isn’t it? But we have a pretty amazing God. He is our ultimate Source for everything we need in this life, as well as want. We can trust Him with everything and anything. And sure, we can pray and pray and pray about it. But are we really praying about it? Are we really giving God not only full control, but complete trust that He will take care of whatever anxiety you have?

 

As a quiet person, anxiety happens for me at least every day, some days more than others. I can stress about anything and everything, especially situations that bring me out of my comfort zone or where I am forced to be confrontational. It is very difficult for me to be this outgoing sometimes. To most people in the world, whether you’re a Christian or not, it’s much easier to be outgoing and to approach uncomfortable situations. But for me, it can be very difficult.

 

I recently read a devotional on my iPhone’s Bible app that stated that when you pray and you still feel burdened about what you were praying about, you didn’t really pray to God about the problem. Instead, you just told Him about it. Praying about something – and really praying about it – is giving it all to God with complete confidence in Him that He will make everything turn out all right. We may not know yet on how the situation is going to turn out, but no matter what, God has our backs, and He always pulls through for us. God has a beautiful & unique plan for our lives, and as long as we keep attending church on a regular basis, studying His Word, praying regularly, and doing our best to be a shining example to others as He has instructed us in the Bible, then we really can’t go wrong. I’m not saying there’s not going to be ups and downs along the way, or even that the situation we’re faced with turn out perfectly. But, as I’ve read somewhere before, “God makes a way when there seems to be no way.” That’s something my life has gone by, and I’ve discovered that many a time in my life, that saying rings true.

 

This Christmas, perhaps you’ve just lost a loved one and are searching for answers, or at least comfort and peace in the midst of your struggle / trial. Maybe you don’t know how to afford Christmas presents for your kids this year, or maybe you are not looking forward to seeing a certain relative during the holidays. Maybe you have to work over the holidays, or even, maybe you’re alone this Christmas. No matter what you’re going through, pray about it. But not just pray about it, give God ultimate control & love & peace in your life. This is a hard lesson I’ve had to learn within these past couple of months. When you pray & surrender everything to God, but trust God that He’s really, really got this – then you will feel, within your chest and heart, ultimate peace. Peace that is so real you can feel it within your own body. Burdens are lifted from your chest. Your anxiety begins to disappear, and suddenly, the obstacle you’re about to face doesn’t look that bad after all. Because God is amazing and nothing is impossible with Him.

 

I hope you all have a safe, warm, and happy Christmas holiday season! And a Happy New Year! Blessing to you all, and thank you all for still putting up with me and continuing to read my blog posts. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

JMK~ ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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4-H – An Experience to Cherish Forever

4-H – An Experience to Cherish Forever

3 Novemberย  2017

 

Hello everyone,

 

I was eleven years old when my mom thought it would be a neat idea if my younger sisters and I joined 4-H. So we joined the Silver Lake 4-H Club in our hometown, named after a lake in the area. I wasn’t too crazy about it at first, being shy and all, and I wasn’t up for joining “clubs.” But once we started, I learned to like it, love it, and then, years after graduating from high school, missing it.

 

When I was fourteen, my family and I attended an event that gave honors and awards to those at the Fargo, ND college, NDSU, for those who had made lives and careers that all began with 4-H, and who also had been greatly involved at NDSU. My late uncle, Jerome (remember him? Click here if you don’t), had been greatly involved in NDSU, which began from his deep love of 4-H. He’d loved it so much he’d made a career out of it, and that night, Jerome had received an award of his dedication. We all looked on, proud smiles and matching pink flowers pinned to our chests. My family and I took the award in his place and in his honor. The gentleman presenting the award had many great things to say about Jerome. I had proud tears in my eyes when the man mentioned that Jerome’s family was there, and everybody looked over at our table where we sat, applauded, and even gave us a standing ovation. Because Jerome had been that brilliant of a person.

 

Ever since that day, I worked even harder to present myself as a worthy participant in the nearby 4-H county fair. My sisters and I presented sheep, chickens, and rabbits as animals nearly all the years that we performed. It was a TON of work every year from 2001-2008. I cannot even fully express in depth how much work it truly was, particularly with the sheep. It was even extra work when you chose to take non-livestock items to the fair, which included food, sewing and construction projects, painting projects, and the like. In theย  year 2003, I got a Reserve Champion award for my writing project novel that I put into the fair, which brought me to the state fair in the Twin Cities, MN. It was very much an exciting experience, although unfortunately, I received a red ribbon (compared to the best blue ribbon award) for my participation. My book deserved FAR better. But in 2004, I received a Grand Champion ribbon for the best wether lamb (which is a young ram) in the open class showing. Along the way, I became disappointed, unhappy to happy, excited, and proud. Along the way, I had a deep adoration for the animals I presented every year. It was especially the hardest and saddest when we had to sell our young rams every year. Working our hardest from when they were newborns to after the fair; it was a yearly struggle that was difficult for all of us.

 

The following are ten things that I learned about 4-H throughout the years:

  1. Remember that it’s not the awards that you receive, but what you learned from the experience and how it has affected you as a person.
  2. Animals are God’s creatures, and they have individual,ย  unique personalities all their own.
  3. Don’t let anybody just go around and tell you that your animal or your work of art that you placed into the fair is meaningless compared to theirs. Make sure to defend yourself, but do it in a way God will be proud of.
  4. Trust that God has a beautiful plan for your life, which far exceeds any awards you might receive.
  5. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, for everyone’s story is different and everyone’s way of learning is different.
  6. The amount of money the state takes away from 4-H’s funds that they receive in 4-H animal auctions is highly unfair. The 4-Her worked HARD for that animal. They deserve every penny of it.
  7. As my mom used to say, “there’s always next year.” Don’t give up. Keep trying to work hard and keep learning everything you can about 4-H and the 4-H projects you work on. You never know, it might turn into a career one day.
  8. Don’t get mad if someone got a higher award than you, for it will not get you anywhere in life, and such attitudes are filled with nothing but selfish desires.
  9. Don’t forget to smile as much as possible. If you’re all hot and sweaty from bathing that sheep lamb and you don’t want the judge to think that you hate 4-H, because you don’t, it’s really just the hot weather – just keep smiling!
  10. Keep going back to county fairs every year, no matter how old you are, and keep telling stories about the 4-Her you truly were.

 

Recently, I attended a county fair, and as I walked through the corridors of the non-livestock 4-H projects such as gardening, sewing, and painting, I kept smiling to myself. That had been me at one point in my life. A person who may have never been involved with 4-H can walk through such projects in the fair and think, “oh, that’s nice. That must have been a lot of hard work,” and will never TRULY realize the depth of that hard work like us 4-H admin do. I saw every stroke of the paintbrush, every piece of tightening thread, and watering of the flowers that day. I KNEW what it was like to work hard like that, because I lived it. And you know what? I highly recommend it to anyone thinking about putting their kid through a club or special activity. It’s free, and the amount of work that it amounts to will be SO worth it in the end. Trust me, it WILL be worth it.

 

 

Have a great week! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

JMK~

Tell Me About You!

17 October 2017

 

Hello everyone,

 

Currently I have writer’s block, so as I struggle to make my brain work, I’ve decided to try to make my blog as “trending” as possible. Today has marked three years that I have been with WordPress, and it has become a journey that I have found enlightening and fun. I wouldn’t ever go back to other blogs I’ve tried in the post, or even a free website, because WordPress has become so worth it. But on my 3rd anniversary here, I realize that all of my blog’s followers may not know me as well as I would have hoped, even after reading my About Me page.

 

So now is the chance, everyone, to tell you 15 top things about me, because 15 is quite a lot. But in return, I would LOVE to hear from all of you – what do you like to read about on WordPress or on any blog in general? What are your favorite topics to read about? What interests you the most? What are your favorite hobbies? I would love to hear about you, in order to make my own blog more interesting and fun! Also, for all of you writers/book nerds out there: what books/genres do you like to read? Who are your favorite authors? Are you more apt to buy books online or buy them in store yourselves? Do you prefer hardback or paperback books?

 

In general, I would just love to hear from all of my followers! What caused you to want to follow me? What intrigued me to you?

 

Thank you, thank you, thank you – my dear, wonderful followers – for deciding to follow little ol’ me. I hope that in the future, I create blog stories that make you think and filled with a never-ending intrigue to learn more! ๐Ÿ™‚ And now, to mark off the three years of being on this fun blog website, below are 15 things about me that you would not have guessed otherwise. Enjoy, and feel free to share your own thoughts in comments! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

  1. I am a Christian. (Click the link for more details on this.)
  2. I have been happily married to my wonderful husband, Ryan, for four amazing years.
  3. I love all animals, and it breaks my heart to see people treat them cruelly. If I was financially able to, I’d adopt dozens more pets just to give them a happy, healthy home. We have two cats of our own, Lefty and Felix, who were adopted from an animal shelter. If you have never even thought about the idea of adopting a pet, please do so today.
  4. I do writing-related stuff mainly only on Tuesdays, and devote the rest of the week to spending time with my husband, family, and friends.
  5. I grew up in a small town, in the countryside of Minnesota land, the eldest of five daughters. There, my sisters and I were raised with raising sheep, chickens, and rabbits, while maintaining the balance in our 4-H club.
  6. I love alternative music, which is also my fave. My top three bands include: Mumford & Sons (#1), Of Monsters and Men, and Gregory Alan Isakov. I enjoy listening to these during my writing time.
  7. I am an avid reader. I’m currently reading Emily Bronte’s novel, “Wuthering Heights,” and am enjoying it so far. I love reading on a daily basis.
  8. I enjoy the hobbies of knitting and painting, and am looking forward to taking up sewing projects sometime in the near future. I love finding fun hobbies to do such as these, which also preoccupies your mind from the negative effects of social media and news broadcasts.
  9. The only genre I write is romantic-suspense, which also has to have a life lesson about God incorporated within the story. I plan to do exactly what my website’s slogan proclaims: write to change lives; lives, that is, that teach about God, for He is my #1 reason for doing and having everything in my life.
  10. I try to visit my parents’ home, my first home, as often as I can, and try to do so at least once a month. During this time, I spend Friday night with them, cooking and baking with my parents, laughing with my sisters, playing with their dog, and bonding with my grandmother.
  11. My favorite food is homemade mac and cheese – yum!
  12. I am a coffee & tea addict! I also really love chai tea latte. My favorite teas range from the gas station Arizona teas to chai tea & green teas. Oh, and I always take my coffee stark black, no matter what brand it comes from, and have been drinking coffee since I was twelve.
  13. God willing, I plan to one day visit all 50 states. Our most recent road trip took us through Wyoming, which was the most beautiful state I’ve seen yet.
  14. My husband I have been to Spain.
  15. I strive to read the Bible daily. I try to read at least 2 chapters every morning before work and 1 devotional. After my Bible study, I do a lot of praying. I find immense comfort and peace in doing both.

 

God bless,

 

JMK~

 

 

 

 

What it Means to be a Christian

What it Means to be a Christian

6 October 2017

 

Hello everyone,

 

I can’t believe it’s fall already! Wow how time flies when you’re having fun, living life and serving the Lord! Today, I have now been a Christian for 5 years. It seems just like yesterday when I was immersed under the waters, baptized, and renewed in newness of life. Being a Christian these past 5 years has been a difficult but fulfilling road. Growing up, my parents raised me in the strong routine of attending church on a regular basis, praying as often as possible, and constantly searching for God’s truth in your life as far as the plan He has for you. He has a unique and beautiful plan for each and every one of us, and gradually, as I grow older, at age 29 I’m learning more and more of what it means to not give up on God, to keep unwavering trust and faith in Him, and how important it is to always put God first in your life. I hope that these truths are as encouraging to you as they are every day to me.

 

Therefore, below are the top ten things that I’ve learned since first becoming a Christian.

  1. God is not only omnipresent, but he is 100% involved in my life. No matter what fears, worries, or stress-related happenings occur upon my day, God is always right there listening to me and answering my prayers even when I do not know His answers.
  2. When you submit full control of your life and particularly your future to God, amazing things happen. He blesses our lives immensely, and we gradually learn to have a stronger faith in Him.
  3. When you pray to God, the Holy Spirit intercedes for you on your behalf, so that your prayers to God’s ears always sound perfectly done. Those words you can’t completely express the way you’d like to, God already knows what you want and need and answers your prayers.
  4. God’s answers to prayers isn’t always no, but quite often is “not yet.” This is one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned while being a Christian. An even harder element is accepting that and moving on with your life even though every bone in your body is desperate to know the answer.
  5. God amazingly blesses us in our lives. I have an amazing husband, a wonderful job, an enjoyable passion for writing, and a loving family. God is good.
  6. Evangelism is hard, but worth it. The more heavily I become involved in my church, the more I understand this. it’s not just a success when somebody becomes a baptized Christian, but even telling people about Jesus is a success. Because it’s exactly what God wants for us to do.
  7. There are amazing people in the church who love you very much, who are like family, and who will always support you. They will never judge you, because everyone deals with their own imperfections and struggles in life. Everybody is a work in progress. All that is important is that you are constantly working on your imperfections, as opposed to accepting them about yourself. God wants us to constantly work to be better and happier people.
  8. There will be people who cross your path who become receptively cold to your Christian message. Even some of you out there might see my blog post and think to yourself, “what a load of garbage.” But if you preach the Word of God with love and honestly tell them so, particularly with what I am doing to you right now, to them it might be tough love, but it’s the only way to evangelize, the most important thing God wants us to do in our lives. If someone you love doesn’t understand that, let it go if they become angry and cold. But don’t give up. Keep showing yourself as a good example of how to live a Christian life, and keep working hard to do right in God’s eyes. In the end, it’ll be so incredibly worth it.
  9. It is soooo amazing to be married to a Christian spouse, someone to come home to every day who greets you with love and is always supportive to you. The inspiration he or she gives you will be the best; trust them in their wisdom. If you are going through a trial or struggle, just be upfront and honest with them about it. After praying about it first, of course.
  10. Becoming a baptized Christian is the best decision I ever made in my life. It is such a simple action. All you need to do is believe in Jesus’ words in the Bible by believing in Him, confessing and repenting your sins to God, and becoming immersed with water for the forgiveness of sins. The Greek word for “baptism” is “baptismo,” which translated means, “to submerge or immerse,” which means to plunge someone completely under water. This puts you into the death of Christ, and then taken out of water renewed in Christ with a brand new, beautiful life that begins free from sin and vowing to God that you are going to live your life for Him going forward until one day, you find yourself in eternal paradise. This is what the Bible says, and this is what being a Christian is all about.

 

I love being a Christian. It’s the most important thing in my life, and I have yet to regret it. There’s nothing more comforting than bringing your troubles to the Lord to handle and take care of. He already has your prayers answered. But He loves you serving Him every day. If any of you has questions on the things I mentioned above, please message me privately. But please, keep any ugly words you may think of to yourself. Life is too short for ugly words anyway.

 

And for those of you who are Christians, keep on keep’n on. Don’t give up, and remember, your hard work will be rewarded one day.

 

Have a good rest of your month, and Happy Halloween!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

JMK~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

An Extra Piece of My Heart

1 September 2017

Hello everyone,

 

I pulled up into my parents’ countryside driveway. I parked on the grass next to my sister’s Jeep. My heart was in my throat. My stomach was weak. I gazed over, through the driver’s window, and gulped at the sight of the family dog standing by my car, panting, happily waiting for me. I smiled, and as I got out of my car, I tried to ignore the fact that Sailor was only walking on three legs. I forced the excitement into my voice as I pet him like crazy, buttering him up with sweet words of encouragement and love: “How’s my little Sailor boy? How are you doing? Are you happy to see me? Huh?” His long tail wagged, tongue lolling, chocolate brown eyes lit up with joy despite the pain he probably felt in his leg. That day would be his final day on this Earth, and he didn’t even know it…

 

Several days before, my mom had called my cell phone to give me unfortunate news. Sailor didn’t have a broken leg, but rather, he had bone cancer, and it had already spread throughout his body. There was nothing the vet could do. Two days before that, my mom had called me to tell me our family’s old Shih Tzu poodle dog, Holly, had died in her sleep. Two dogs in one week. I was crushed. Even more of a crush was wholeheartedly deciding that I was going to be there with Sailor, alongside my sister, as they put him down. It was THE hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Watching the light fade from his eyes gave me have an even more profound sense of devotion, love, and adoration to animals. The excitement and joy and love that he showed before that first shot made me feel guilty later for having to put him down. I do not regret being there, though, no matter how hard it was. He needed to see us and be comforted by our presence. He was only six years old.

 

Those deaths, ontop of other things, has made it an interesting summer. It has really made me appreciate God, though, and the time I got to share with my loved ones. Life is short, and we are never guaranteed tomorrow. Every moment is precious, and every person in your life is designed by God to be a special presence in your life. Be grateful for the small things, don’t get angry about things that won’t matter on your death bed, and always pray your very hardest. Live for God the way the Bible requires, not any way that people tell you to, and always work your hardest with those loved ones and those careers and hobbies that matter the most to you. Don’t take anything for granted, because tomorrow, it may not be there.

 

Tragedy can make the sanest person go mad, but only if we let it. If we have God on our side, draw comfort and strength from Him and never give up, only then will we succeed. Too often in this world we see suicide rates continuing to go up. Whenever I hear about that, I always think about how tragic that is, because life is precious, and nothing, no matter how bad it is, should ever lead you to that level. Those of you who are hurting today, rely on Jesus. He is the author and perfecter of our faith. He will lead you through, but only if you believe in him and trust Him. Have faith that He will pull you through and will lead you through better tomorrows. He has a unique and wonderful plan for each and every one of our lives, and if we daily read & study His Word and learn from it, we will be comforted, we will succeed in our endeavors, and we will receive God’s wisdom & guidance to do and say the right things at all times. This is my daily prayer. My dogs’ deaths will always stay with me, but I look forward to the future, of loving others, especially our cats and future dogs and cats just as much or even more so as Holly & Sailor. I still miss them terribly. But I will never forget the memories we have. Most of all, I will never forget the comfort God gave me when the going was tough, all because I relied on Him.

 

Holly & Sailor, you will always & forever hold a special place in my heart.

 

Have a great week!! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

JMK~

My Book Got a Bad Review – Now What?

4 August 2017

Hello everyone,

 

First of all – let me start off by saying that the best and happiest route in the publishing business is getting published through a literary agent. Then, the publisher they get for you should be the one doing the main promotions of your book. Doing so yourself is up to you. But if a publishing company tells you that you and you alone are responsible for promoting it, that just has red flags all over it.

 

Regardless, though – what happens when you do get a bad review? What should you do, if anything, and how should you react?

 

Well, the first thing you should remember is that the reviewer doesn’t know you personally and is not criticizing your life, your personality, etc. They’re simply telling you what they think about your book. And doing so doesn’t mean that you wrote a terrible book. Your book is awesome no matter what! Don’t forget that – YOUR BOOK IS AWESOME NO MATTER WHAT! You put your blood, sweat, tears and valuable time and resources into this masterpiece. So yeah, when a bad review occurs, it hurts. But don’t focus on the bad – focus on the good. If such popular authors as JK Rowling and Kate Morton and Stephanie Meyer gave up on their first book due to bad reviews, think how different we all would be! Harry Potter would never be finished! Of course it’s difficult to believe, but I’ve looked on Amazon, and such famous authors DO get bad reviews. And yet, their publishers and agents still sell thousands of more copies of their books! And why is that?

 

BECAUSE OF THE GOOD REVIEWS!!

 

See? The good reviews are what really matter. And then there are the bored bad reviewers – those who haven’t read your book but they just wanted to leave a cruel review. I’ve known people like this, because they’ve admitted on their review that they didn’t even like my book. Such people are heartless and cruel, and have no other time on their hands other than try to get you upset with such awful reviews. Once again, ignore these people and simply focus on the good reviews. These are the ones that truly matter and also the ones that will get you incredibly far in life, where you will sell hundreds of thousands of books, because people love reading good reviews!

 

Of course, it isn’t supposed to be about reviews or how many books you sell. It’s really about making a true difference in the story you’ve told. SOMEONE NEEDS YOUR BOOK. Don’t forget that. You will change someone’s life with your book one day.

 

And you know what? All that hard work will pay off and will be so incredibly worth it. Never give up! Never surrender.

 

Have a good week! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

JMK~ ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Offering Editing Servicesย 

Hello everyone, 

Beginning today I’m offering editing services for anyone who needs something edited! ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€ Please share this among yourselves, and let me know if you have questions! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Editing Services

Are you looking for a professional to write and edit something of yours? A poem, short story or manuscript or any other documents? Are you on the verge of sending something into a publisher and need another’s eye about what you have written? You’ve come to the right place! I will edit and proofread your documents while providing free feedback and criticism to you at a single cost.

Why Me? 
I have a Bachelor of Arts degree in English with an emphasis on Writing. I also fourteen years of my own experience, including college, to professionally give you a good writing and editing approach.

How does it work? 
You contact me via email or social media with your attached document you would like edited. If it is a short story or manuscript, I will provide free constructive criticism in comments throughout the work. Constructive criticism is nothing personal against you or your work, but something critics give on a regular basis. It is not mean feedback, but honest, creative, and direct feedback. I will give you honest and creative approach that will be most beneficial to you and your work. Examples of things I’d comment on is research done for something in the story, or POV aspects.

What do you look for when editing?
Sentence structure, grammar, punctuation, spelling, POV within paragraphs, and that the paragraphs are indented correctly. When editing, I will also determine what readers would like about certain parts.

What is the cost?
Manuscripts; books of poetry or short stories – $50
Individual poems or other documents- $20
 
How do I pay?
Through PayPal, find my account under name Jenna Kinzler (brown hair with black sweater and scarf), and send to this account. Otherwise, I can give you my address and you can send a check. 
 

How long will it take? (Depending upon project):
Manuscripts- 2-3 weeks
Other – 3-5 days

Exceptions
I will not accept material about or eluding to the erotic or sexual nature which includes bestiality, rape, incest, or alternative lifestyles. Also, please only submit works that carries as little profanity as possible. If you have any questions about these, since there may be exceptions, please contact me. It is better to ask questions than to miss out on an incredible opportunity for your work to be edited professionally.

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Thank you! I look forward to working with you all! I promise you it’ll be a rewarding and exciting experience for both of us!