Words from a Wise Family Man~

Words from a Wise Family Man~

Hello everyone,

 

Sacrifice, hard work, and living life to the fullest has never come easily for me. As a teenager, I struggled with these things especially, mainly about who I am. I have always been a quiet person, but it wasn’t until I learned more about a late uncle of mine that I really began to understand the meaning of life and God’s purpose for us living in all of it.

 

He was 23 years old when he died, under the deep waters of Costa Rica. His name was Jerome, my mother’s younger brother and a great influence in my life. Everybody in my life, of course, has been a great influence, but the words he spoke to me in a speech of his that I found was what made me really admire who he was. To this day, I wish I would’ve met him, but he died several years before I was born.

 

One of his greatest passions in life was agriculture. He grew up on a farm, raised in the beauty of hard work, caring for animals, and learning the good and bad elements of every part of crop and farm life. He adored 4-H and FFA, so much so that he made it a career. While on a mission trip in Costa Rica with his 4-H mates, he’d had so many plans for how to influence as many countries as he could through agriculture and how to be better farmers. His next goal had been to explore Panama. But God had other plans.

 

While out swimming with one of his friends, his friend lost control of his swimming and drifted afar off into sea. Jerome leaped into the water to save him, and his friend safely made it to shore. However, Jerome did not, but instead drifted farther and farther away; ultimately, to his death.

 

I share this story not out of confusion or for you to feel sorry for me for an uncle I never knew that died. But by reading his final given 4-H speech, I discovered that I was more like him than I thought, and furthermore, I discovered the art of really knowing him through such a profound speech. Below are the main points given in his speech. They’re brief, but they signify not only how we should love each other, but how God loves us. This speech persuades us to be positive for our futures, but to also not expect a future, for God has an ultimate and beautiful plan far beyond all of our imaginings. I hope you enjoy this speech as a testament to him, and I hope you learn something wonderful and beautiful because of it.

 

**The most enjoyable journey is to meet someone halfway.
**You’ve got to love life, love things and love those around enough to show them. It’s a risk, but if you aren’t afraid of yourself, your life can really get better each day.
**If you start saying love and thinking about the things you love, your whole day will become a positive experience.
**Replace something negative with the positive like: “I may not hit the baseball, but I love the way you pitch” or “I hate getting up this early–but I love the sunrise and the singing birds.”
**Find something new each day to live. Don’t miss all those things that make life lovable and livable. Don’t miss life. Grab for it. Live each day and each moment. Some people live like there will always be a tomorrow, like they will never die. “Oh I can enjoy life tomorrow, right now I’ll just survive.” Love it now. There may never be a tomorrow. The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it. Leo Buscaylia says, “I don’t see death as a villain. I have happily accepted death as a challenge.” I agree. It lets me know that I have to live.
**I see death as a positive force. It tells me I have a limited time. It plays no tricks. Death has been a possibility since the time I was born. It has never hidden itself…unless I hid it. Choose the present. That’s what really matters. Rid yourself of no and can’t and impossible. The world is full of negative. We are full of it. Say yes to life. Try yes and possible and hopeful. Embrace life.
**Are you foolish enough to imagine that you automatically deserve success in an field or activity? Then why do you believe you automatically deserve success in marriage and family relations unless you work at it? Look at the way you treat each other in your family. With silence. With screaming. You ignore their feelings. You hide your feelings. Or you try to. The boss yells at you. You go home and yell at your spouse. Your spouse yells at the kids. The kid kicks the dog that bites the cat that urinates on the rug. Where does it all start? Why is it that the people we love the most we support and reinforce the least?
**We too often criticize. We don’t give our family the benefit of the doubt. We expect the worse. Grandma used to say that you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. So why concentrate on the vinegar?
**”My parents did this and that to me.” You know what your parents do for you. The best thing they know how to. Maybe the only thing they know how to. They give you what they know. God bless them. They may not be perfect. But then, no one teaches a person how to be a parent. You suddenly have a baby and there you are. The sad part and maybe the reason you are so disappointed is that you believed your parents were perfect. And they let you believe it!
**It’s your responsibility to become the most loving, wonderful person because that is what you will be giving to your children–to all you meet.
**Sidney J. Harris says on rearing children: Parents who expect or want their children to ‘appreciate’ what they have done for them usually find that the children feel resentful when they grow older.
**Telling people you love them means you have to get out of your way. You’ve got to take a risk and expose your feelings. “I’m too cool. I don’t need to tell you what I feel.” We need love, we tell people we love them, and we need to do it now. We can’t put it off. We don’t know how much time we have.
**Love life–reach for life and stretch your mind. Love yourself–don’t be afraid. Don’t stand in your way. Love those around you. Give them the best you there is, and then they can become the best.
**No earthly happiness would be possible without our gracious God. The thought of eternal happiness with Him makes our joy here almost meaningless in comparison–to make our earthly life meaningful he has some suggestions like this: Be an instrument of peace: Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love…where there is injury, pardon..where there is doubt, faith…where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadness, joy. Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console…to be understood as to understand…to be loved as to love…for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen.
**Carry those thoughts–console, understand, love and give–have a wonderful life!!****

 

Have a good week, everyone! 🙂

 

JMK~

The Importance of Querying Only Literary Agents

March 3, 2017

Hello everyone,

Writing, like other hobbies, is an art that takes time, practice, devotion, love and, perhaps, even an education to perfect. There are millions of writers all over the world, thousands upon thousands of books. You can read a book in print, or by your Kindle or Nook. You can read it online. You can do all sorts of writing-related activities, similar to an artist. An artist can be a painter by simple sketchbooks, or by a paintbrush, whereas a writer can be one from any genre that is out there. But once that perfect poem, novella, or novel is written and deep inside your heart, your truest desire is to be published and for the world to see your unique work – that right there is when you know your work is as perfect as it can be. It is the truest image of yourself that you can give. It took your heart and soul, sleepless nights, and every  breath of your body to create that work. You made sacrifices with this work that you never thought you’d ever have to do. Aside from God, your family, friends, and your job, it is the most important thing in the world to you.

Then, in a blink of an eye, it’s suddenly gone. Vanished. The piece of history you worked so hard for in sweat and tears, is no more.

I’ve been a writer since twelve years old when I first picked up a notebook and pen and decided to write. Dozens and dozens of notebooks later, I typed them up in the computer. But back then, I was naïve and didn’t realize, until college, the steps that needed to be took to publish. Now, I understand those steps even more, but recently, I made a mistake in judgment that I’ll never make again, causing me to realize the pain and deep disappointment life brings if, as a writer, you do not submit to literary agents.

There are scammers out there who don’t care at all about your book, but literary agents are not that way. They are the ones you must go to not first, but ONLY when submitting your manuscript, poem, etc. They’re the ones you should only query. You edit your work in three ways: through grammar, spelling, and punctuation; through revising sentences and making sure all the facts in the book are correct; then, finally, through making sure the overall book makes sense as a whole. Then, you perfect the query letter and synopsis by making sure the hook of the book stands out and is eye-catching and without using any cliché sentences. Once you are ready to submit to an agent, go onto QueryTracker.com and do so. You research what genre your work places into, and then search for a literary agent who only is interested in such genres.

You do NOT, and I repeat, NOT submit to publishing companies first.

Publishing companies such as Little Brown Co, Scholastic, and other big popular companies are magnificent and prefer literary agents to come to them. They will not accept unsolicited manuscripts, which means without agent representation, which is perfect, because it prevents you from being ripped off. If you submit to a small publishing company apart from literary agent representation, you are at risk at getting scammed and heartbroken. There may be small publishing companies out there who are legitimate, but how can you know for sure unless you risk your entire life’s work to find out? A literary agent keeps you from being scammed and helps you become published; that is their sole purpose. Literary agents are awesome. They are your best friend when it comes to getting published; after you are accepted by them, of course. But once you are, they take good care of you. They constantly keep you in the loop as to what is going on with your book. They make sure your book gets the best service you can possibly imagine. They accept your book, because they believe in it as much as you do, and for them, it’s not about the money or promoting a business. It’s simply about serving the author and helping to publish a book destined for the world to read.

Authors don’t pay a cent when it comes to publishing. The agents and publishing companies promote your book for you. They take care of you. They put your book in print right away. If they have a release date promise for a book, they keep it and never postpone it. They do an excellent service to the author and are their ultimate guard dog. Read my lips: they take wonderful care of you.

Don’t be so desperate to get your book published that you self-publish or else risk your entire life’s work for companies who may not even take care of you. They may say that they do when you first walk in, but you never know on whether or not they’re truly trustworthy unless you risk it. You DESERVE to be taken care of by publishing companies who WILL help you get published, but that can ONLY come through literary agents! Literary agents help you become published and successful. Don’t give up. Trust in the literary agents, and perfect your writing work and query letter in such a way for that to happen. Then, once you are accepted, the hardest work is over and you’ll be on your way to a beautiful writing career as an author.

Fight your entire heart and soul for your cherished work. That’s what you truly deserve is respect and honesty, and the devil is fluently involved in destroying it otherwise. No matter what anyone ever says or does, your treasured work is perfect and incredibly worth a literary agent who will take care of it with every bone in their body. God has blessed you with this talent of writing, painting, etc not to see it go to waste, but to bring you to a career that you will love and adore the rest of your life – all because you made the right decision and chose literary agent representation.

Happy Writing! 🙂 Have a good March, everyone 🙂

JMK~

Be Who You Are~

Be Who You Are~

September 1, 2016

Hello everyone 🙂

Hope everyone has had a good week.

Inside the picture above you, you will see an image that represents the season of autumn – at first glance. At second glance, you will see something altogether different. Every leaf within this picture is different. Each leaf is unique in its own way. They may a different color, different shape, or different size. But each leaf has its own story. It’s been to only places that leaf has been to. The wind has taken each one of them in different directions, only to land them on this wooden platform. Just think of the people each leaf has breezed past in the wind, of the people who stepped on them, picked up and cherished, or simply been gazed at as it hung healthy on a tree.

There is way too much hatred in the world today – by that, I mean, the horrible things I see on the news. People are unkind to their neighbors. There’s way too much violence. It’s getting worse by the day. And there’s one thing that stands out from all of that – people are so unique in their own ways and personalities that others become “too different” and because of that, it is therefore unacceptable.

Last night in Wednesday night Bible class, we learned about the disciple, Stephen. According to Acts 7, he was criticized deeply, even to the point of death, by the religious leaders at the time, only because he was sticking up for the Gospel and the facts that Christ truly had existed. It is a beautiful but sad testimony. But what did Stephen do? Did he become angry and use harsh words? No. Instead, he remained calm and focused, standing up for what God taught in His Word. It’s beautiful.

Do you ever see a group of little kids cross the street or play together on the playground? Each little person has their own unique styles and personalities. While one will find hobbies of writing and painting, others will learn and understand mathematics through accounting unlike anybody else could. One kid may one day find the cure to cancer, while still others discover that they don’t mind that job at Wal-Mart after all. Or perhaps they will work as a custodian, enjoying the work simply because of the people they work with on a daily basis.

You see, everybody has their own unique styles and ways of doing things. Each person has their own hobbies they prefer, while others may think of those hobbies as silly or a waste of time. My point is – be your own person in your own style of your hobbies and talents, and don’t you ever let anyone else tell you otherwise. Act upon those hobbies, passions, and talents that make you uniquely you and creative in your own beautiful way. As long as they coincide with being appropriate in God’s eyes as read in His Word, and don’t let others pull you down. There’s too much negativity and hatred in the world today. Too many people are competing to be more or less than somebody else. Or else they make fun of others simply because that hobby or style is “weird” or “different.” All I can ask you is, when you’re old, what are you going to think about your past life? Will God see it as a good life when you stand before Him one day? Will you say that you’ve lived a happy and fulfilling life?

We should be just like Stephen. There should be Stephens everywhere today in our lives, full of kindness, love, calm, focus, and immense courage to be their own person. And, we should teach our children and our children’s children to act the same way. Don’t tell the kind of story that might show up on the news or would be frowned upon by God, Who is always watching. Tell the kind of story that will warm others’ hearts and make your own heart truly happy. Hold tight to your love for God and others, and hold tight to your hobbies and talents, for they have become who you are, and who you are is your character and livelihood. Live a beautiful, wonderful life.

Enjoy your week, everyone 🙂

JMK~ 🙂

Marriage is Fun – Really, It Is!

Marriage is Fun – Really, It Is!

7 July 2016

Hello, everyone!

It was the first of December, 2011. I was unemployed, searching for a job, but took a break from job searching to go to a certain special KFC at 1:00 PM. I parked my rusty old, brown Oldsmobile in a parking stall facing the street and took out my phone. My fingers were trembling with nervousness and anticipation.

“I’m here,” he texted.

“Me, too,” I replied in the text, and hit Send. I swallowed hard, and prayed, Dear Lord, if it is Your will, please let him be the One. I’m sick and tired of my heart being broken. Please, let him be the One.

It was the first real date in our four months of texting each other, and also the first real time we would meet face to face. I’d never been so nervous in my life. But the moment I stepped out of my car, he stepped out of his old maroon, Jimmy truck. His eyes met mine, and he smiled. I smiled in response, too, as if knowing right then and there that I would be smiling at him like that for the rest of my life, as if knowing already that he was the one I would marry. Somehow, as I walked toward him, I knew, somewhere deep inside me, that this was the one, that God had already answered my prayer before I’d even asked it. Little did I know then that a year and a half later, I’d be engaged to this man – that years afterward, I’d be typing this blog post to you right now, fully intending to tell you all about the wonderful and amazing journey that lies ahead in marriage.

Every couple’s love story is  beautiful. But ours is my favorite. I love that saying. It is so true, and I always think that, too, every time I look into my husband’s eyes and remember that cold wintry day in the KFC parking lot. So much has changed since then – but I have to wonder if every married couple who sees the above saying really thinks this for the rest of their married life. Do they expect the marriage to be short? or do they hope their spouse will change so they can live a happy life? Sadly, too many marriages crash mainly because of unhappiness and non-understandable differences. Sadly, too many people walk away from that person they’d once been so completely in love with, usually not due to infidelity, but due to too much anger in not being able to change the spouse because of this and that. Maybe he always forgets to put the cap back on the toothpaste when he’s done using it. Maybe she never flosses her teeth and therefore that grosses him out. Maybe she thinks he never helps with the kids / pets as much as he should. Maybe he’s the only one going to church while she stays home and sleeps in. The list goes on.

I firmly believe that lots of people these days are afraid of getting married, because they think marriage is a ball-and-chain business. Guys don’t want to be faced with a “nagging wife” the rest of their lives, of dealing with her little fits of tears and rage about the littlest things. Girls don’t want to be faced with a prison sentence, seeing one man for the rest of their lives, and living with the fear of never being able to change his disgusting habits.

Hold on.

People don’t understand that marriage is NOT a ball-and-chain business. A wife shouldn’t be nagging at her husband anyway, just like the husband should not be treated as a prison sentence with disgusting habits. Granted, nobody is perfect. So why do couples assume their significant other is perfect when they marry? And why do people so often think, “Oh, when we get married, I’ll just change him / her. I’ll make it happen somehow.” God made marriage beautifully – where we as couples work as a team together. We love each other more than the day before. We look past each other’s imperfections and see the beauty that’s inside. Yes, maybe he doesn’t put the cap on the toothpaste every night, but overall, he’s still a great husband, right? Yes, maybe she snores every night and sometimes whines, but overall, doesn’t she make you the happiest woman in the world? You see, marriage isn’t by dealing with each other’s imperfections constantly – it’s learning to see one imperfect person perfectly. Each and every day, too!

Let me give you an example. My husband and I work as a team. He is the breadwinner and family head of the household, but we talk about everything. We never keep secrets from each other, and we never purposely try to hurt each other. We’re not perfect, but we see past each other’s imperfections to the beauty that’s truly inside. If we have an issue, we try to talk through it in a calm manner where we are listening to each other thoroughly. We have a strong marriage based on trust, love, faithfulness, and where we’re each other’s best friend. In marriage, it is a constant adventure, but only if you play the game right. But first, above all else, lean on God and ask Him to help you through the times when you need strength in your marriage, and be kindly honest with each other all the way through. Not every situation will go well, but not every situation will go bad, either. If you work through your issues instead of bottling it up inside and nagging / yelling, though, and remember the marriage that God so beautifully designed, and also if you let go of the small things that do not matter and open up to the beauty that’s inside your spouse, every situation will be successful no matter what.

Do your homework first, though – choose a spouse that will make a good mate, where there aren’t any red flags anywhere. Then, open your arms wide to the pure and true beauty that’s inside marriage. You want the kind of marriage where you can happily grow old with and laugh with, not somebody you’re not looking forward to coming home to. How did your grandparents and great-parents make it through their long-lasting marriages? Through trust, faith, love, true friendship, patience, and kindness. Marriage is a lifetime commitment longing to be discovered by all, and it only gets better year by year! But only if you let it – if you both work hard, enjoy, and love your spouse despite the imperfections of his or her self. That’s the kind of person that God sees – and that’s the kind of person that YOU should see!

Don’t forget to look for Jenna’s new book, “The Magic Suitcase: Martha” in online stores through Amazon and Smashwords! Buy it today and then buy it again when it arrives in paperback – which is coming soon!  Focus your reading energy on a book that will remind you about the wonderful blessings of life, and the surprises that come upon life’s way!

Have a good week, everyone 🙂

JMK~

Home Sweet Home

Home Sweet Home

30 June 2016

 

Hello, everyone,

 

“Life happens in the oddest of moments.” Currently, I am working on a book where, in one scene, a mother recalls the mistakes she’s made and how, as an adult, she wished she hadn’t thought them as mistakes back then. God gives us blessings in life when we least expect it. I strongly believe that. Now, it’s still a daily struggle to count my blessings and truly be thankful for them. It’s hard for me to be thankful when I recognize how much I struggle in my own faults and flaws, and most of all, I worry what other people think about them as much as I do.

 

I grew up in the country in eastern Minnesota, the oldest of five girls. I was blessed in growing up with parents who raised us to love God first and foremost, who took us to church every Sunday, and who taught us right from wrong. My mother always said to find a career that makes you happy, and I have. But in life I learned something that I heard once on “Little House on the Prairie” (love that TV series) – that is, to count every moment and also, you can have many careers in your life. Which is true. In my life, I am an author and also a wife. I am a daughter, granddaughter, and one day, I will be a mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother.

 

Not only that, but living in the country really made me appreciate life as it came. We were snowbound in winter a lot of times, not being in school with everyone else, simply because the school bus couldn’t make it down the not-yet-plowed gravel roads. In the summer, if you wanted real work, you helped in the barn by shoveling sheep manure out of the pens, and may I add that the barn was NOT air-conditioned and had very little air circulation? Most barns are anyway. We were faithfully involved in 4-H. We took livestock to the county fair every summer in mid-July. We daily practiced with our sheep, including with walking our lambs down to the end of the long driveway and back, or even down the road farther, halter-breaking them and then walking them to make sure they got enough exercise. Sheep were judged according to how meaty their thighs, back ends, and sides looked. It was a serious deal getting money from the 4-H auction, getting blue ribbons, and have the warm feeling in the center of your chest that your hard work truly had paid off. We weren’t afraid to get sweaty, down and dirty, and although we complained at times, I regret all of those regrets now, and would gladly do it all again.

 

As an adult, you really appreciate the home where you’ve grown up, and the people you grew up with. I remember the afternoons and evenings I spent at home in my bedroom writing stories in my notebooks, and I wish I’d been spending them in the living room with my family instead. I remember listening to the trains’ horns as I drifted off to sleep most nights, the crickets chirping, and the fresh smell of nature on your nose through an open bedroom window. I remember practicing my piano pieces while my mother made supper and my dad watched the evening news. It’s the simple things you never forget.

 

Most of you out there are young like me, around the age of 28, younger or older. Here’s a piece of advice: appreciate every day you have. Some days, I am just content on sitting in the quiet solitude of our living room with my husband, watching our cats play together or snooze. Sometimes I look at him and have a sentimental feeling – that one day, seventy years from now, I may very well be looking at him for the very last time. I’m not trying to be morbid or anything, but my point is this – you only have one life. If you read the Bible and obey what it says in there, you will find true peace in your life that doesn’t come anywhere except through God above. The stresses we deal with now in life is nothing compared to the glory that we will one day see. There is always victory in the Lord. Nobody is perfect, and I certainly don’t claim to be. But how much sweeter our life will be if we appreciate our loved ones, constantly show them, and love them even more than the day before that. May all of you be always blessed in your lives. Be faithful to God, choose the right mate, and enjoy the rest of your life as much as you possibly kind. As in Tim McGraw’s song, “Humble and Kind,” (a song I love), follow suit. Live a wonderful life.

 

Don’t forget to look for Jenna’s new book, “The Magic Suitcase: Martha” in online stores through Amazon and Smashwords! Buy it today and then buy it again when it arrives in paperback – which is coming soon!  Focus your reading energy on a book that will remind you about the wonderful blessings of life, and the surprises that come upon life’s way!

 

Have a wonderful week!

 

JMK~ 🙂

 

 

What Being a Custodian Has Taught Me

Hello everyone, 

I apologize for not writing in here for a few weeks. It’s been crazy busy for me. But yesterday was my official last day at doing custodial work, because I’ve moved onto better horizons. I spent 8 months working at a private school, and now I’ve come to tell you what I’ve learned from it. I was in charge of cleaning and organizing the entire middle school. It’s hard but good work. In fact, I enjoyed it. You may hear a lot of criticism about custodians / janitors. But you need them more than you think. 

What I’ve learned:

1. It’s job security. 

This job provided me with work for a short period of time, and although I hadn’t done it before or had experience, I became quite good at it. I’m a fast learner, so I learned the ups and downs, where everything was located, became acquainted with my very own custodial closet, and got a nice ring of keys.

2. Teenage kids can be little demons.

Kids will show no mercy. They’ll middy up the floors on purpose, barf in places like in a bathroom where a toilet or garbage can is five feet away, abandon school books in random places, spit gum on the floor, miss on the toilet and urinel, never flush, drop juice on the floor, leave leftover milk and juice in the trash, throw food on cafeteria floors, etc. 

3. You’ll lose weight.

I didn’t even need to lose weight when I started, but I ended up losing 30 pounds.

4. You’ll be appreciated.

I always received compliments while working there. 

5. You’ll be so paranoid about how your work looks that you’ll master it to perfection. 

6. You’ll look at the students’ artwork on the walls while you clean.

7. Cleaning bathrooms isn’t so bad.

For me, I always listened to music, which helped immensely in the process. But once you clean a bathroom a thousand times, you’ll know more about it than your bathrooms at home.

8. You’ll have more free time. 

Since I worked the evening shifts, my mornings were free, which caused me to easily write a whole novel, edit it, and submit it to be published.

9. The little things matter.

Such as the teachers putting the chairs onto the desks, taking out trashes for you, etc, it means a lot. Especially when you’ve got enough on your plate. 

10. You’ll miss it when you leave for good.

I got choked up yesterday when I left. In the end, it’s not about the bad, disgusting  stuff I saw in a day. It was much more than that. It was cleaning your place to perfection for 8 months. I got to know every nook and cranny of the place. I could stroll through the place blindfolded. It was a job that I enjoyed, and in the end, one I’ll always say I’m proud I had it. 

Have a good week 🙂

JK 🙂

A Must-Read for Graduates

A Must-Read for Graduates

Hello everyone,

 

I love the song, “Letter to Me” by Brad Paisley. Except for one lyric in the beginning, it’s pretty spot-on as far as telling your younger self to not worry or be afraid, that everything will come out right in the end. Makes me wish I could’ve read a letter of my twenty-seven year old self to myself at age sixteen or seventeen, when I was worrying about stuff I’m not concerned about anymore. It really makes you think about how precious life is, that life really isn’t about worrying or being afraid, and doing so doesn’t get you very far in life. It all comes out well in the end in accordance with God’s divine will.

 

It’s been ten years this year now since I’ve been a high school graduate, and six years since I’ve been a college graduate. Therefore, since it is the month of May, I will write a letter instead to all of those graduates for this month, and I encourage you all to share this with someone you know who is graduating from high school, college, or a higher degree this month. I know I’m only 27, but by now I’ve learned a lot and enough where I can essentially give some great advice to those graduates way younger than I am.

 

Dear Graduates:

 

What you’re worried about right now won’t matter. Are you wanting that graduation day to go well and smoothly? Don’t worry. Are you wishing that guy or girl to notice you? Don’t worry. Are you wanting nothing but to make your parents proud? Don’t worry. Because it’ll all work out fine in the end.

 

High school graduates: college isn’t about partying and having the time of your life. It isn’t about getting straight A’s. It’s about striving to do your best, discover who you truly are, and making your college career one that you will never regret. In college, don’t worry so much about dating. Don’t worry, period. Focus on doing well in college and enjoying your career, and then, everything else will fall into place. Choose a major that will not only make you happy, but where you will enjoy your classes, because college should all be about that. If you enjoy your classes, you’ll appreciate your professors. And if you appreciate your professors, you’ll get more and more excited about your major. But this is very important: research everything you can about the major. Does it excite you? Or is it only something that will pay the bills? Go to college for your true passion and love in life. Don’t go for something that may fit well with somebody else. Also, you will have a combination of good and bad dorm roommates. Seek out the good in the bad roommates, because after all, there is good in all people, and despite your limited space, one day you’re sometimes going to wish you were still in college studying for finals and such instead of facing the real world.

 

College graduates: that graduation day was great, wasn’t it? It sure was. The speeches, the degree in your hands, the thought that it’s time to start job searching for a career in your degree you now have. Surprise yourself with the passions that you have, and if you are unsure, trust me, it’s okay to find a career that you didn’t go to school for. People will ask you why you made that choice of a job that you have, and why you’re not finding a job in your degree. Ignore these people, or tell them that you enjoy what you do, and your degree will help you get into all kinds of jobs, because employers love college degrees. Even if you have a college degree in science and decide to be something completely different, it’s okay. Find a career that excites you and that you enjoy. If it’s within your degree, great. If it’s not, don’t worry about it. Life is all about discovering your passions in life, and if you have a job that you love and that pays the bills, nothing else matters.

 

Choose a spouse who will make a good mate, who will bring out the best in you. Let them get to know you to the point where they know you better than you know your own self, but it’ll benefit you incredibly. Make sure they love you unconditionally, and let the man be the Christian leader of the home and family breadwinner. Don’t think that you need to change them, because you never will. Accept their flaws if they have any, and learn to love every part of your spouse’s heart, body, mind, and soul. Fall in love with each other all over again every day, and do little things for them that will make them smile or make their day. Make sure you talk about all important decisions: family, children, careers, etc. BEFORE you marry. Marriage is all about sacrifices, but more than that, it’ll be the best decision you’ll ever make.

 

Adopt a pet to change their life. Volunteer, and find hobbies you believe you won’t like. If you end up liking them, it’ll be a blessing. If you don’t, it’ll be a learning experience. But all in all, in the busyness of life, don’t forget your parents and grandparents. Call them and talk to them as often as you can. Make sure you always end with an “I love you,” because we are never guaranteed tomorrow. They will age faster when you are busy in the worries of life, and before you know it, they’re gone. So appreciate them while you have them here with you. Nothing is important as making sure you keep constant contact with those loved ones. Yes, your career and family is important. But don’t forget about them, for they were the ones who brought you life.

 

Make sure to enjoy your life, and appreciate every day the blessings God gives you. Oh, and most importantly, above all things, learn to read and study the Bible every day. Focus on the words God gives you, and discover what they really mean. Let go of everything else and become a born-again Christian. Obey the Gospel. God is holding you by the hand; he will lead you through the trials of life and always be your greatest Friend. Count on him and trust Him deeply, for He will never let you down.

 

Best of luck, Graduates 🙂

 

JMK~