Waiting for What You Want Most~

Waiting for What You Want Most~

14 January 2019

 

Hello, everyone, and Happy New Year!!! 🙂 🙂

 

I cannot believe that it is finally the new year! 🙂 2018 was such a terrible year, filled with disappointment and death. Therefore, I am so thankful for a new year; for new beginnings and adventures. I’m so looking forward to what God has planned for us this year!

 

In fact, below are my 2019 goals. I never fulfill all of my yearly goals, but it’s still fun to plan and think ahead, isn’t it?

 

  • Develop a stronger faith & a complete trust in God.
  • Finish my current WIP (Work In Progress), “The Innkeeper’s Secret”, and thoroughly revise it and do research on it.
  • Finish my final FINAL revision of “The Dead Sister”, completely revise the query letter & synopsis, and once again submit to literary agents.
  • God willing – find our house, buy it, and move out of our apartment before the summer.
  • Spend more time with family and true friends, as well as church family.
  • Learn better on forgive and forget, as well as how to be completely content with my life for now.

 

Right now, I am waiting on several things in my life. One thing I can mention is that I am waiting for the time when I’m once again a published author! Within this past week, I became an official author on Goodreads!! How huge that is, because to me that means that I’m still not just a writer, but an author. Granted, I’ve only published one book in my life, but still, I have faith that one day, God will bless me with even more books to place on bookshelves. This time, God willing, they’ll be on shelves at Barnes & Noble – just like my favorite author, Kate Morton.

 

Waiting is sooooo tough. Everyone in the world has waited on something in some point of their lives. Maybe you’re simply waiting for life to begin – for college to start, to finally move out and be free from your parents. Or maybe you’re waiting to finish college and find that career you love. You could be waiting for that dream career, for God to bless you with that perfect spouse, for God to bless you with a baby, or for God to save you from the problems/trials going on in your life.

 

Whatever you’re waiting on – just remember, God knows. Right now, God has forced my husband and I to wait for blessings that only He can provide. But in those times of trial and uncertainty, it’s important not to lose hope or faith. This season of waiting is simply just a test of your faith. God wants to see how much you’ll depend on Him – or if you’ll take matters into your own hands! And folks, DO NOT TAKE MATTERS INTO YOUR OWN HANDS!! Do not even make a single decision in your life without praying about it first. It’ll only cause you to have to take a serious detour within that certain big decision or issue you’re praying hard for. But if you simply trust God and be patient, God WILL come through for you because He DOES exist and He DOES LOVE YOU more than you can possibly imagine!

 

One of the hardest choices I’m faced with right now is being patient – but in the course of that, I’m learning how to be content with where God has put me at this point in my life. No, it’s not fair, and quite often, I cry out to God and pray with my whole heart for Him to answer our prayers. But alas, we must let God’s timetable rule.

 

Soooo what are you supposed to do in the mean time while you wait?

 

Busy yourself with the hobbies you love. Right now, while I wait, I’m devoted to re-decorating and re-organizing our home, playing piano more, reading suspense novels, working harder to learn & love my job better, and planning and writing my current WIP. I’ve also devoted myself to spending more time in God’s Word, in prayer, and spending more time with my husband, Ryan, as well as my family, true friends, and church family. No, all of these hobbies do not block the desperate longing coursing through my heart several times a day. They do not block out the need for those dreams that drive me forward daily. But even more important than that – in fact, the most important of all – by gradually learning to let go of my fears and worries each morning and choosing to trust God, I’ve found an everlasting peace. That peace comes only by giving our Creator all control. I’m not saying it’s easy; in fact, it comes only over time, as well as through sincere Christian growth.

 

But I promise you this – when God whispers, “Okay, you’re ready now,” and answers your prayers – just think how eternally thankful you’ll be! And you know what? You’ll also be thankful that you had trusted Him in the first place, because He is our dearest friend we have, and He will never let us down. Never! No matter how He chooses to answer our prayers! 🙂

 

Are you struggling right now in your faith? Or are you looking to get closer to God? Or maybe it’s your first time turning to God in your life and you want to learn more about Him? Come on, don’t be shy. – Please feel free to comment or else drop me a line at my email: books_jmg@yahoo.com. Never lose hope, my friends, and never lose patience! Yes, it will be trying at times – but it WILL be so incredibly worth it!

 

Make sure to follow me on Goodreads! Have a good January, everyone 🙂

 

JMK~

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What Legacy Will You Leave Behind?

It was a calm and sunny, spring day. A family drove their silver Jeep Cherokee down the interstate. The husband and driver, Bob, reached over and tenderly placed a hand over his wife’s slightly swollen belly as she smiled lovingly over at him. As he concentrated back on the road, the wife glanced backward at their two-year old daughter in the back seat, babbling away as she played with the stuffed animal she held between her delicate chubby fingers.

Bob turned a corner, prepared to bring his family to their destination for the weekend. But suddenly, out of nowhere, a drunk pickup truck driver lost control of his F-150, instantly killing all four passengers of the silver Jeep…

A half hour later, as the ambulance, firefighters, and policeman gather around the broken vehicle, they discover the dead members of the delicate family, so once full of life and happiness and love.

2 February 2018

Hello everyone,

Over New Year’s weekend, I attended a relative’s funeral, someone I had known and cared about. Doing so, I witnessed a part of the funeral preparations, and the one aspect of it that really stuck with me the most was the obituary part of it. The funeral home had sent a single sheet of paper for the family to fill out – which included the basic information of the now deceased relative such as birth date, birth place, children, grandchildren, etc. And then, at the very bottom, it had given 2-3 blank lines to fill out for the person’s hobbies, interests, and a bit of info on their life. 2-3 lines.

2-3 LINES????!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME??

Sometimes, when my husband and I are sitting in church together, or even when we’re in the living room sitting together with the cats where I’m catching up on writing and he’s playing video games – I look over and really look at him. I mean, really look at him. I’m planning on spending on the rest of my life with him, grow old with him, one day raise kids with him – all that. But what if God has other plans? What if my life, or, I should say our life, is as fleeting and short as the children and couple of the true life story above? When my uncle Jerome was 23, he must have assumed that he was going to live a long life – but no, he was lost in the waters of Costa Rica. When my sister Kayla was two, my amazing parents probably thought that she was going to one day to grow up to be a beautiful young woman who would one day get married and have children. But no, instead she didn’t even reach age three before our good Lord took her to be with Him.

When you see an obituary, you don’t see a long life. You see a brief bio about that person’s life – anywhere from three to five paragraphs long. Life is but a fleeting shadow, and it must be cherished. You might know somebody and think, Oh, she was such a sweet person. But what kind of unique sweetness did that person have? What was it about them that made them sweet? He had the craziest sense of humor. Well, everybody does, really. What was it about this person’s sense of humor that made it special? Are you seeing what I mean? A family sees the meaning and the wonderful relative’s life within an obituary, but a stranger only sees a life. I like the kind of obituaries that are a newspaper’s page long that really depict at least a bigger taste of that person’s life. But still, it’s just a taste. Therefore, what kind of legacy are we trying to leave behind in the now?

Doesn’t it scare you that your life could end out of the blue and we won’t be ready? And it scares me also that, even though I know where I’m gonna go in my eternity, the legacy I leave behind to strangers is unknown. Why should we care, you ask? Because we are loving and living our life right now, the only one God has given us, and people deserve to know how we lived our lives and what made it more unique and special than anyone else’s life.

That’s when it’s important to do two things to make yourself ready just in case it happens tomorrow: plan your funeral; and make yourself right with God.

Planning your funeral may sound morbid, but if you really think about how short life can be, especially since tomorrow is never guaranteed, then doing so is a good plan. What if your family planned something you wouldn’t have wanted? Granted, you’re not around by then, but wouldn’t you want it planned your way instead of a way they think you would’ve wanted? Perhaps you may even be disappointed if you knew what they were planning. In fact, my late uncle Jerome planned his funeral before he went on his mission trip, and his family actually used it for his actual funeral.

Secondly, making your life right with God is most important. Read Acts 2:38. Baptism is essential for salvation. Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. Confess your sins in true repentance toward God. Confess to the ones surrounding you prior to being baptized that Jesus is the Lord of your life. Immerse yourself in the water, and be cleansed into a new creature, buried into Christ and wash your sins away. This simple rule from the Bible brings you into eternal life. Then, attend church regularly and try your hardest to live a life pleasing to God. Trusting in God after that will bring such peace and joy to your life, in a way the world will never provide.

Finally, make sure that you leave behind a life that your relatives will be talking about for years. Where it won’t be a simple burial of your body and moving on. Leave behind a life that brings happiness and love to others. At my funeral, I want people to come up to the front and talk about good times that were spent with me, and funny things that I’ve done or said. Best of all, it’ll be a celebration of life, because I’m finally with the Lord and my sister Kayla, and that makes the whole life journey all the more worthwhile.

Take care, everyone and I hope you all will at least think of my advice 🙂 You never know, it could change your life for the better. Comment if you have questions 🙂 have a good February!

JMK~

My Book Got a Bad Review – Now What?

4 August 2017

Hello everyone,

 

First of all – let me start off by saying that the best and happiest route in the publishing business is getting published through a literary agent. Then, the publisher they get for you should be the one doing the main promotions of your book. Doing so yourself is up to you. But if a publishing company tells you that you and you alone are responsible for promoting it, that just has red flags all over it.

 

Regardless, though – what happens when you do get a bad review? What should you do, if anything, and how should you react?

 

Well, the first thing you should remember is that the reviewer doesn’t know you personally and is not criticizing your life, your personality, etc. They’re simply telling you what they think about your book. And doing so doesn’t mean that you wrote a terrible book. Your book is awesome no matter what! Don’t forget that – YOUR BOOK IS AWESOME NO MATTER WHAT! You put your blood, sweat, tears and valuable time and resources into this masterpiece. So yeah, when a bad review occurs, it hurts. But don’t focus on the bad – focus on the good. If such popular authors as JK Rowling and Kate Morton and Stephanie Meyer gave up on their first book due to bad reviews, think how different we all would be! Harry Potter would never be finished! Of course it’s difficult to believe, but I’ve looked on Amazon, and such famous authors DO get bad reviews. And yet, their publishers and agents still sell thousands of more copies of their books! And why is that?

 

BECAUSE OF THE GOOD REVIEWS!!

 

See? The good reviews are what really matter. And then there are the bored bad reviewers – those who haven’t read your book but they just wanted to leave a cruel review. I’ve known people like this, because they’ve admitted on their review that they didn’t even like my book. Such people are heartless and cruel, and have no other time on their hands other than try to get you upset with such awful reviews. Once again, ignore these people and simply focus on the good reviews. These are the ones that truly matter and also the ones that will get you incredibly far in life, where you will sell hundreds of thousands of books, because people love reading good reviews!

 

Of course, it isn’t supposed to be about reviews or how many books you sell. It’s really about making a true difference in the story you’ve told. SOMEONE NEEDS YOUR BOOK. Don’t forget that. You will change someone’s life with your book one day.

 

And you know what? All that hard work will pay off and will be so incredibly worth it. Never give up! Never surrender.

 

Have a good week! 🙂

 

JMK~ 🙂

 

 

When Life is Unfair

When Life is Unfair

2 June 2017

Hello everyone,

The Bible gives us all sorts of good life lessons from real-life stories of people who have fought through the worst, and survived. My favorite apostle of all time is Peter, because in the beginning of his relationship with Jesus, he was very charismatic and wasn’t afraid to speak his mind. He loved Jesus, don’t get me wrong, but he was always questioning Jesus’ motives and reasons for doing things. I think he did so, not because he didn’t trust Jesus, but because he wanted to understand the right thing to do in these situations. He was a man who fought his faith, and who saw Jesus’ miracles hands on. He was also kind of a troublemaker, such as denying Jesus 3 times and cutting off a soldier’s ear to defend Jesus. I could almost picture Jesus looking at Peter when he did that, pretty much saying, “Peter, come on.” The story that really sticks with me, though, is the story of, when Jesus walked on water, Peter didn’t have enough faith to trust in Jesus to walk on water, too. As charismatic, courageous, and adventurous as Peter was, in that tiny moment, fear and distrust of faith got the best of him.

Such a story tells us that even when the apostles saw Jesus in actual physical form in front of them, they still had a lack of faith, such as not trusting when they were in a boat with a sleeping Jesus in a middle of a terrible storm. Nowadays, we trust Jesus completely. But the instant a trial hits us – a loved one dies; a dream disappears; we don’t get an expected answered prayer – we instantly turn into the “why God? Why me?” person. We are all human, but God expects us to trust Him. That is who He is. He is amazing.

A couple months ago, I saw the movie, “Is Genesis History?” It was really a tell-all story of God’s creation and how amazingly He created this earth, more than we can possibly imagine. We know that God created everything and made every human uniquely different, but did you know he made every single living thing unique too? From the biggest animal like the elephant to the tiniest ant – God knows every single one of them and made them all differently. And He cares for every single one of them, too! Isn’t that amazing? Then why is it that when a trial hits us, we forget about that and focus on the trial, as if we are all that matters, as if God doesn’t care about us, as if what we want matters more than what He wants for us.

Faith is a troublesome thing. When life is great, you may have a strong faith in God. But when life is sour, you forget about God and lose complete faith in Him. But we need to be faithful, because of the storm. We need to praise Him in that storm (yes, you read that correctly) and we need to trust that for whatever reason He’s letting the trial happen, no matter what, He has a unique plan for every one of us. He doesn’t have the same plan for somebody else. Just like there’s nobody else in the world with the same personality as you and I, there’s nobody who will ever have that same God-designed plan. Because we all handle life differently, act different, and are different! We are unique as God has blessed us to be, and to dive toward that beautiful plan instead of running from it will give us blessings instead of sorrows.

Recently, and still, I’m going through a personal trial. It is a trial of my faith, of trusting the Lord. My endless fear had been that God will not provide me with specific blessings in my life, or else He would make them different than how I’d like them to be. For months, I struggled with this, in denial that I had no faith problem. I read countless Bible reading plans and devotionals that gave me comfort. But finally, I realized that I needed to trust and accept that God would provide. I had to be courageous to accept that, and I needed to be wise to know how to accept it, and I’m still praying for these things. But because of this trial, I’ve actually drawn much closer to the Lord than I ever thought I could be, and not only that, but I’ve trusted the Lord much better, harder, and stronger than I ever have before, and I’ve been happier and more accepting of life because of it. God may not provide exactly what you want, but He will provide something that’s beautiful, wonderful, and much better than you could ever imagine. Even much better than what you wanted! You may have wanted something wonderful, but God provided something even better than that! All because you didn’t give up hope and kept your focus on the Lord. For example, when my late sister died, my parents blessed me with three more sisters. When a sheep epidemic hit our family’s farm one year, God not only healed the epidemic but blessed us with far more sheep than we ever thought of. God always comes through for us even when all seems hopeless.

You may think that your life is stuck in a rut and not going anywhere. But right now, God is using this time where time in general seems to be running agonizingly slow as you wait for His answers to your prayers. He’s using this time to train you in patience, gratitude, and overwhelming trust and love for Him. He’s using this time to help you grow in trust and love for Him and with your loved ones. He’s not just sitting there waiting. He’s growing the seed in your heart that relentlessly wants to stay put! He’s watering and watering and watering. And soon, you’ll be ready to receive these blessings. Will they be what you really wanted before? Probably not. Will it be exactly as you imagined it would be? No. But will it be worth the wait? Ohhhhhhhhh yes!!!!!!!!!!!

You may be stuck in a rut of growth, just like me. But hold your horses, partner. God has something beautiful planned for your life, something that will make the long wait worth waiting for, and something where you’ll be incredibly glad you trusted in Him all along. So trust in Him, friend, and trust as hard as you can. It will be a stunning sight of heaven when it is all over.

Oh, and don’t forget these three very important verses along the way, something to keep with you at all times, particularly every time a sliver of doubt assails your mind:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not onto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5,6

Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12: 8-10

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Jeremiah 29:11

So is life really unfair? No, because God’s got it covered. All you need to is sit and wait and trust.God will provide, in accordance with His will, in His good time. And it will be beautiful.

JMK~ 🙂

Be Who You Are~

Be Who You Are~

September 1, 2016

Hello everyone 🙂

Hope everyone has had a good week.

Inside the picture above you, you will see an image that represents the season of autumn – at first glance. At second glance, you will see something altogether different. Every leaf within this picture is different. Each leaf is unique in its own way. They may a different color, different shape, or different size. But each leaf has its own story. It’s been to only places that leaf has been to. The wind has taken each one of them in different directions, only to land them on this wooden platform. Just think of the people each leaf has breezed past in the wind, of the people who stepped on them, picked up and cherished, or simply been gazed at as it hung healthy on a tree.

There is way too much hatred in the world today – by that, I mean, the horrible things I see on the news. People are unkind to their neighbors. There’s way too much violence. It’s getting worse by the day. And there’s one thing that stands out from all of that – people are so unique in their own ways and personalities that others become “too different” and because of that, it is therefore unacceptable.

Last night in Wednesday night Bible class, we learned about the disciple, Stephen. According to Acts 7, he was criticized deeply, even to the point of death, by the religious leaders at the time, only because he was sticking up for the Gospel and the facts that Christ truly had existed. It is a beautiful but sad testimony. But what did Stephen do? Did he become angry and use harsh words? No. Instead, he remained calm and focused, standing up for what God taught in His Word. It’s beautiful.

Do you ever see a group of little kids cross the street or play together on the playground? Each little person has their own unique styles and personalities. While one will find hobbies of writing and painting, others will learn and understand mathematics through accounting unlike anybody else could. One kid may one day find the cure to cancer, while still others discover that they don’t mind that job at Wal-Mart after all. Or perhaps they will work as a custodian, enjoying the work simply because of the people they work with on a daily basis.

You see, everybody has their own unique styles and ways of doing things. Each person has their own hobbies they prefer, while others may think of those hobbies as silly or a waste of time. My point is – be your own person in your own style of your hobbies and talents, and don’t you ever let anyone else tell you otherwise. Act upon those hobbies, passions, and talents that make you uniquely you and creative in your own beautiful way. As long as they coincide with being appropriate in God’s eyes as read in His Word, and don’t let others pull you down. There’s too much negativity and hatred in the world today. Too many people are competing to be more or less than somebody else. Or else they make fun of others simply because that hobby or style is “weird” or “different.” All I can ask you is, when you’re old, what are you going to think about your past life? Will God see it as a good life when you stand before Him one day? Will you say that you’ve lived a happy and fulfilling life?

We should be just like Stephen. There should be Stephens everywhere today in our lives, full of kindness, love, calm, focus, and immense courage to be their own person. And, we should teach our children and our children’s children to act the same way. Don’t tell the kind of story that might show up on the news or would be frowned upon by God, Who is always watching. Tell the kind of story that will warm others’ hearts and make your own heart truly happy. Hold tight to your love for God and others, and hold tight to your hobbies and talents, for they have become who you are, and who you are is your character and livelihood. Live a beautiful, wonderful life.

Enjoy your week, everyone 🙂

JMK~ 🙂

Marriage is Fun – Really, It Is!

Marriage is Fun – Really, It Is!

7 July 2016

Hello, everyone!

It was the first of December, 2011. I was unemployed, searching for a job, but took a break from job searching to go to a certain special KFC at 1:00 PM. I parked my rusty old, brown Oldsmobile in a parking stall facing the street and took out my phone. My fingers were trembling with nervousness and anticipation.

“I’m here,” he texted.

“Me, too,” I replied in the text, and hit Send. I swallowed hard, and prayed, Dear Lord, if it is Your will, please let him be the One. I’m sick and tired of my heart being broken. Please, let him be the One.

It was the first real date in our four months of texting each other, and also the first real time we would meet face to face. I’d never been so nervous in my life. But the moment I stepped out of my car, he stepped out of his old maroon, Jimmy truck. His eyes met mine, and he smiled. I smiled in response, too, as if knowing right then and there that I would be smiling at him like that for the rest of my life, as if knowing already that he was the one I would marry. Somehow, as I walked toward him, I knew, somewhere deep inside me, that this was the one, that God had already answered my prayer before I’d even asked it. Little did I know then that a year and a half later, I’d be engaged to this man – that years afterward, I’d be typing this blog post to you right now, fully intending to tell you all about the wonderful and amazing journey that lies ahead in marriage.

Every couple’s love story is  beautiful. But ours is my favorite. I love that saying. It is so true, and I always think that, too, every time I look into my husband’s eyes and remember that cold wintry day in the KFC parking lot. So much has changed since then – but I have to wonder if every married couple who sees the above saying really thinks this for the rest of their married life. Do they expect the marriage to be short? or do they hope their spouse will change so they can live a happy life? Sadly, too many marriages crash mainly because of unhappiness and non-understandable differences. Sadly, too many people walk away from that person they’d once been so completely in love with, usually not due to infidelity, but due to too much anger in not being able to change the spouse because of this and that. Maybe he always forgets to put the cap back on the toothpaste when he’s done using it. Maybe she never flosses her teeth and therefore that grosses him out. Maybe she thinks he never helps with the kids / pets as much as he should. Maybe he’s the only one going to church while she stays home and sleeps in. The list goes on.

I firmly believe that lots of people these days are afraid of getting married, because they think marriage is a ball-and-chain business. Guys don’t want to be faced with a “nagging wife” the rest of their lives, of dealing with her little fits of tears and rage about the littlest things. Girls don’t want to be faced with a prison sentence, seeing one man for the rest of their lives, and living with the fear of never being able to change his disgusting habits.

Hold on.

People don’t understand that marriage is NOT a ball-and-chain business. A wife shouldn’t be nagging at her husband anyway, just like the husband should not be treated as a prison sentence with disgusting habits. Granted, nobody is perfect. So why do couples assume their significant other is perfect when they marry? And why do people so often think, “Oh, when we get married, I’ll just change him / her. I’ll make it happen somehow.” God made marriage beautifully – where we as couples work as a team together. We love each other more than the day before. We look past each other’s imperfections and see the beauty that’s inside. Yes, maybe he doesn’t put the cap on the toothpaste every night, but overall, he’s still a great husband, right? Yes, maybe she snores every night and sometimes whines, but overall, doesn’t she make you the happiest woman in the world? You see, marriage isn’t by dealing with each other’s imperfections constantly – it’s learning to see one imperfect person perfectly. Each and every day, too!

Let me give you an example. My husband and I work as a team. He is the breadwinner and family head of the household, but we talk about everything. We never keep secrets from each other, and we never purposely try to hurt each other. We’re not perfect, but we see past each other’s imperfections to the beauty that’s truly inside. If we have an issue, we try to talk through it in a calm manner where we are listening to each other thoroughly. We have a strong marriage based on trust, love, faithfulness, and where we’re each other’s best friend. In marriage, it is a constant adventure, but only if you play the game right. But first, above all else, lean on God and ask Him to help you through the times when you need strength in your marriage, and be kindly honest with each other all the way through. Not every situation will go well, but not every situation will go bad, either. If you work through your issues instead of bottling it up inside and nagging / yelling, though, and remember the marriage that God so beautifully designed, and also if you let go of the small things that do not matter and open up to the beauty that’s inside your spouse, every situation will be successful no matter what.

Do your homework first, though – choose a spouse that will make a good mate, where there aren’t any red flags anywhere. Then, open your arms wide to the pure and true beauty that’s inside marriage. You want the kind of marriage where you can happily grow old with and laugh with, not somebody you’re not looking forward to coming home to. How did your grandparents and great-parents make it through their long-lasting marriages? Through trust, faith, love, true friendship, patience, and kindness. Marriage is a lifetime commitment longing to be discovered by all, and it only gets better year by year! But only if you let it – if you both work hard, enjoy, and love your spouse despite the imperfections of his or her self. That’s the kind of person that God sees – and that’s the kind of person that YOU should see!

Don’t forget to look for Jenna’s new book, “The Magic Suitcase: Martha” in online stores through Amazon and Smashwords! Buy it today and then buy it again when it arrives in paperback – which is coming soon!  Focus your reading energy on a book that will remind you about the wonderful blessings of life, and the surprises that come upon life’s way!

Have a good week, everyone 🙂

JMK~