Writers & Personal Style~

22 January 2019

 

Hello, everyone,

 

I love to watch a good movie, preferably anything of either the superhero kind or a romantic drama / comedy. Everybody has their own tastes and preferred genres when it comes to movies. Some like horror movies or can’t seem to get enough of Stephen King flicks. Others watch only inspirational movies. For myself, it’s a mix. Around Halloween especially is when I really get courageous enough to see a new horror movie. But the point is: everyone has their own tastes.

 

The same is true for artists – some prefer watercolors; others, a different type of painting style. For writers, we all have our own genres that we prefer as well. I prefer romantic suspense, because I love a good love story, wound together within a intense mystery where the reader gradually pieces together a puzzle. Maybe that’s why Kate Morton is my favorite author. Also, there’s nothing wrong with the genre you prefer, or the type of writer you are.

 

The only thing wrong is when somebody makes it their priority to try to hurt you or else ruin the objectives to your dreams in which you’re currently working so hard for. These people are called bullies. Online, they’re called cyber bullies. Now there’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism – the kind where people kindly correct you about how to be better at your dream career or hobby. That type of stuff I happily accept. But, as many of you probably know very well, there’s the ugly type – those who purposely try to say cruel and untrue things about you. They may post an ugly comment on a social media page of yours, or share your information just to publicly humiliate you or else try to destroy your public image on social media.  I’m not sure what causes people to want to purposely harm others to get what they want or maybe to even make them feel better about themselves, but I’ve dealt with it enough times to realize that these people are not worth even corresponding with. So whenever someone does try to purposely get you, just remember one thing: nobody can ever prevent the dream career or hobby you’re trying to reach. Absolutely nobody. All you must do is block them, maybe fix your privacy shields a bit if you need to, and move on. It’s not even worth trying to defend yourself to people who are not keeping an open mind or open heart about the kind of person you are, or the art you’re trying so hard to create.

 

Writers aren’t perfect. Human beings aren’t perfect, and we haven’t been since before Adam & Eve first sinned in the Garden of Eden. If writers make a mistake, maybe they aren’t aware of it. Maybe they need some kind advice. But don’t berate them, embarrass them either publicly or privately, and don’t belittle them. In the long run, such cruelty isn’t going to benefit you, especially if readers discover you’re cruel to other authors/writers. Don’t you want people who follow you on social media to look up to you?

 

Writers – we are all in the same boat here. We all want the same goal: to be published, and to positively affect the world through our stories. But how exactly are you doing that if you’re being a bully to other fellow writers/authors? Still, I forgive you. This post isn’t about shooting daggers at anyone, but rather, showing people the right and wrong ways to criticize art. The art of writing is a beautiful thing. God blessed us with the talents to commit pen to paper and create amazing stories. But God did not create us to harshly or cruelly criticize other people’s mistakes or personal styles. Such negative attributes are straight from the devil.

 

Constructive criticism is beneficial and is much encouraged. Going forward, please make sure that the criticism you give others is not going to hurt them in any way, and is said in the nicest way possible. As an artist, writer, or whatever hobby or career you’re passionate about, you’re always going to receive criticism. You’re also always going to have the chance to give criticism. But just make sure that both are done in the right way. Otherwise, it not only tries to destroy that artist or writer’s character, but it begins to eat at your character as well.

 

There are millions of people out in the world longing to make a difference to the world. Don’t try to ruin that for them, especially when you’re trying to make a difference yourself. Instead of being an enemy, be a friend, because friendship will change a person’s life for the better; enemies only destroy.

 

So writers, I encourage each and every one of you to write in your own personal style! Work your hardest and be the best that you can be, and don’t let anyone ever create doubts in your mind about yourself. Don’t ever let anyone try to thwart the dreams you’re working to accomplish. I especially encourage you to pray about it, because with a little bit of hard work and a little bit of fervent prayer, God WILL bless you.

 

Have a good week, everyone. And remember, be nice. 🙂

 

JMK~

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Let’s Just Stop Debating, Shall We?

6 April 2018

 

Hello everyone,

 

I’ve never been good at debates. I’ve never really seen the point of them. I try not to watch / read the news a lot, because there’s just way too much negativity – like I mentioned in last month’s post. I would much prefer focusing on things that really grab my attention – as they should grab everyone else’s attention in the world – serving the Lord, enjoying married life with my husband, and cherishing the life moments I get to spend with him, my cats, family, and close true friends, as well as enjoying working in my secular job.

 

When I’m going about my life, I’m not thinking about what the governmental law says about guns, violence, how to lead a just government. Blah. Blah. Blah. I’m not thinking about stuff like that on a daily basis. Sure, I care about such things, but that doesn’t mean I go about my life ratting on people social media pages complaining about how wrong they are, and all the reasons why they’re wrong. If we are to debate, we must do it in a way that is in pleasing to God – NOT what is pleasing to our own selves alone. In all generality, our forefathers began this country with only One Person in mind – God. And that is exactly who our thoughts should be focused on.

 

When you see a news article on TV or in the newspaper that is about violence, laws, etc., we must think in our minds – what would God think about this? And is there anything I can do that would please God? I don’t like to get into debates, because there are too many people out in the world whose focus is clearly not on what God thinks and commands but on their own selves. Such people are close-minded and far too stubborn to even try to persuade things otherwise, if you really wanted to. They don’t mind making threats on the Internet, telling how others are stupid or that something is wrong with them if they believe a certain way that is probably much more pleasing to God than the evil they may fixing up in their minds. Such dirty minds are not pleasing to God, because it clearly says so in His Word. And if we are to go by anything that is pleasing to God, we must first read the Bible – His Word – to understand His exact commands about certain subjects. For example, we should never wish that someone was dead – that is not nice nor would it ever be pleasing to God. Or, we shouldn’t backlash people behind their backs or on social media. For one thing, God sees all and knows all, no matter how you may try to hide something from Him. And if you believe He doesn’t exist – well, I double dog dare you to say that to His face when you will meet Him on Judgment Day.

 

I’m not trying to be blunt here or to even create a debate. I’m simply giving out a bit of a lecture here. Because I am sick and tired of hearing stories of people acting out in evil against God, treating others with evil intentions, others wishing evil upon another, and so forth. The Bible commands such things as leave peaceably with all men and turn the other cheek. Such statements are not mere suggestions – but stark commands, from God Himself given to men inspired by God to write about. Whenever we see someone doing that against another person, we need to rebuke them. And we need to make sure that we don’t follow in their footsteps.

 

So when you’re out there in social media, at work, at home, at church – wherever you are – and you disagree with a subject that someone has – no matter what it is – make sure that what you believe with all your heart, mind, and soul is 100% in tune with God and His Word. If we don’t, we are just asking for trouble one day in Judgment Day. Read the Bible yourself. Study it, and really ponder the words that are written there. They are not just written there for people of the past, but people of the present as well as the future. It doesn’t matter what century it is, the Bible will forever remain the same. It is a cherished, treasured Book that should make you really think about how you’re living your life and if everything that you believe and how you act and think is in tune with God’s Word. Because God knows every heart, and He is God, your Creator, everyone’s Creator. He created you the way you are – an artist, writer, doctor, musician, etc.. And He loves you the way you are – but He so badly needs & wants you to believe every word that is written in His Word. His commands are what He’s going to judge you against one day, when the world will end – and it WILL end.

 

Yikes, that’s a lot of harsh news, right? Well, guess what, bad and ugly news that we hear and see every day is not as harsh as that. It’s just not. Folks, we need to start living for God, not just sometimes or whenever we feel like it, but every time. Every day. Every moment of every day. And we need to keep working our hardest to do so on a constant basis, because if we do exactly what His Word says and if we try our hardest with all our heart, mind, and soul to make sure that our lives are completely in tune with His Word – it is only then that we will have success – true success – in our lives.

 

So let’s stop the debating, shall we? If we all believed God’s commands and trusted in His Will and Word, there would be a lot less debates. There would be a lot less violence, hurt, anger, and misery. But then, God never destined for us to live in a perfect world – but that doesn’t mean He doesn’t still want one. So try to live in a way that is pleasing to God, trusting in Him, reading the Bible, and obeying every one of His stark commands written there. Everything that’s written in there IS a command, and if we only take it lightly, then may God help us on Judgment Day.

 

My dear wonderful readers, know very much that everything I’m saying is not to hurt you, offend you, or anger you. It is simply to help you realize how important it is to act in a way that is pleasing to God. If you wish to debate about a subject, make sure it’s in a way that’s pleasing to God – and you do that by praying hard and reading the Bible heartily first before even beginning a debate. Postpone the debate if possible. All of these subjects that our government brings up IS important – but whether you are to agree or disagree with the changes that are made or not made is up to you. But just remember, if we are unkind to others, evil in any way, or start debating a subject that God may disapprove of, then how are we really living for God? How are we really living lives pleasing to God? How are we really going to make a difference in the world? When it’s all said and done, how much damage will be done? In the end, are we going to choose evil? Or are going to choose good? Choose wisely, according to God’s Word. That’s all I ask. Amen and amen.

 

JMK~

The Joy of Writing

Hello everyone,

Has the good Lord ever made you wait for anything? Well, folks, I’m waiting right now, for a couple things, and let me tell ya, it’s tough!! 🙂 But I know that in the end, it’ll be so incredibly worth it 🙂

What have you had to wait for in your life?

Imagine sitting in jail, feeling like you’re rotting there, while waiting to get let out from that dark, grimy cell, behind black, steel bars that are keeping you there until the government thinks you’ve learned your lesson. This was such a case for Benjamin “Ben” Martin.

I know, I’ve now finished writing about the history of all the books I’ve ever written since I first began writing in my life (see category History of My Books above). But this book is special. In the past couple weeks, I’ve been thinking to myself about the writer’s block I currently have with the book idea I have listed under my “Current Project” page (see above for further details), “Crimson”. But I’ve also had a good idea that if I’m going to speed up my writing and publishing process once my husband and I have children and it gets loads busier one day eventually, I’ll have to get a head start now.

So while I’m waiting for my current writer’s block of my book “Crimson” to flourish away, I’m currently in deep revision of my first book I’ve ever written that was once called, “Life with Guardian Angels.” But now it’s called “Childhood Secrets”. And it is going really well!

So anyway, Ben Martin has been in jail for four years, now being let out. As a reader, you don’t know what he went in for or why he committed the crime. All you know is that he is now a free man, being led out of the jail gates toward a gray SUV where his friends, Cassie Dawson and Mike Bain, excitedly await! His friends are so happy to see him. They haven’t seen him in four years, but beyond that, they have been the only ones keeping in touch with him. Now Ben is a pretty decent guy, apart from the fact that he was once in jail. He comes from a good family; he’s a farm boy, too, and now things are about to get exciting.

Meanwhile, Jess Olsen Beckham had lost her husband to a terrible car accident two years before. She has spent the last two years in mourning for him, trying to move on in a life where her husband, Don, no longer exists. Now how sad is that. Writing the scenes of Jess losing her husband, it really made my heart heavy, just thinking about the complete and terrible loss and pain you would have from losing a spouse so unexpectedly like that. Jess has moved her and her dog, Frank, to a different place and is gradually starting to build a brand new life for herself, little by little.

Ironically, Jess is best friends with Cassie Dawson, and they have been best friends since seventh grade. She’s also friends with Mike. So when Jess steps foot inside her and her friends’ favorite taco joint, she is shocked to see Ben there with them, for of course Cassie never said anything, the matchmaker! All we know about this situation thus far is that Jess and Ben were once high school sweethearts, aren’t very good friends now, and didn’t talk at all during Ben’s jail sentence except for when Jess testified for him during his court trial.

Has this story grabbed you by the throat yet? 😉

So continuing on, as I conclude, this book will be an inspirational-based, romance suspense. It’s suspenseful, because in order to understand all the major facts of the story, we must peer into each and every character’s life, including the deep, dark secrets of Jess’s deceased twin sister, Lizzie’s past, to piece everything completely together.

That is all I will share about the book for now! 🙂 I’ll of course keep you posted gradually about it as time goes on.

Let me share one last thing for you. It is a gloomy day here in North Dakota where we live. It’s very rainy. There’d be nothing better I’d love to do than ——- no, not write ——– read fan mail! I know I am not a published author yet, but almost, so with that said, if you all have any questions, comments, or suggestions about writing, fun characters you like whether it be mine or another author’s, my blog, my life, your life, your passions and about you, or anything in general, really, please drop me a message to my email: books_jmg@yahoo.com sometime! Oh, and please also visit my “About Me” page for more information on how to follow me on social media and subscribe to my monthly newsletter! 🙂

All for now and wishing you all a blessed week,

JMK~ 🙂