Writers & Personal Style~

22 January 2019

 

Hello, everyone,

 

I love to watch a good movie, preferably anything of either the superhero kind or a romantic drama / comedy. Everybody has their own tastes and preferred genres when it comes to movies. Some like horror movies or can’t seem to get enough of Stephen King flicks. Others watch only inspirational movies. For myself, it’s a mix. Around Halloween especially is when I really get courageous enough to see a new horror movie. But the point is: everyone has their own tastes.

 

The same is true for artists – some prefer watercolors; others, a different type of painting style. For writers, we all have our own genres that we prefer as well. I prefer romantic suspense, because I love a good love story, wound together within a intense mystery where the reader gradually pieces together a puzzle. Maybe that’s why Kate Morton is my favorite author. Also, there’s nothing wrong with the genre you prefer, or the type of writer you are.

 

The only thing wrong is when somebody makes it their priority to try to hurt you or else ruin the objectives to your dreams in which you’re currently working so hard for. These people are called bullies. Online, they’re called cyber bullies. Now there’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism – the kind where people kindly correct you about how to be better at your dream career or hobby. That type of stuff I happily accept. But, as many of you probably know very well, there’s the ugly type – those who purposely try to say cruel and untrue things about you. They may post an ugly comment on a social media page of yours, or share your information just to publicly humiliate you or else try to destroy your public image on social media.  I’m not sure what causes people to want to purposely harm others to get what they want or maybe to even make them feel better about themselves, but I’ve dealt with it enough times to realize that these people are not worth even corresponding with. So whenever someone does try to purposely get you, just remember one thing: nobody can ever prevent the dream career or hobby you’re trying to reach. Absolutely nobody. All you must do is block them, maybe fix your privacy shields a bit if you need to, and move on. It’s not even worth trying to defend yourself to people who are not keeping an open mind or open heart about the kind of person you are, or the art you’re trying so hard to create.

 

Writers aren’t perfect. Human beings aren’t perfect, and we haven’t been since before Adam & Eve first sinned in the Garden of Eden. If writers make a mistake, maybe they aren’t aware of it. Maybe they need some kind advice. But don’t berate them, embarrass them either publicly or privately, and don’t belittle them. In the long run, such cruelty isn’t going to benefit you, especially if readers discover you’re cruel to other authors/writers. Don’t you want people who follow you on social media to look up to you?

 

Writers – we are all in the same boat here. We all want the same goal: to be published, and to positively affect the world through our stories. But how exactly are you doing that if you’re being a bully to other fellow writers/authors? Still, I forgive you. This post isn’t about shooting daggers at anyone, but rather, showing people the right and wrong ways to criticize art. The art of writing is a beautiful thing. God blessed us with the talents to commit pen to paper and create amazing stories. But God did not create us to harshly or cruelly criticize other people’s mistakes or personal styles. Such negative attributes are straight from the devil.

 

Constructive criticism is beneficial and is much encouraged. Going forward, please make sure that the criticism you give others is not going to hurt them in any way, and is said in the nicest way possible. As an artist, writer, or whatever hobby or career you’re passionate about, you’re always going to receive criticism. You’re also always going to have the chance to give criticism. But just make sure that both are done in the right way. Otherwise, it not only tries to destroy that artist or writer’s character, but it begins to eat at your character as well.

 

There are millions of people out in the world longing to make a difference to the world. Don’t try to ruin that for them, especially when you’re trying to make a difference yourself. Instead of being an enemy, be a friend, because friendship will change a person’s life for the better; enemies only destroy.

 

So writers, I encourage each and every one of you to write in your own personal style! Work your hardest and be the best that you can be, and don’t let anyone ever create doubts in your mind about yourself. Don’t ever let anyone try to thwart the dreams you’re working to accomplish. I especially encourage you to pray about it, because with a little bit of hard work and a little bit of fervent prayer, God WILL bless you.

 

Have a good week, everyone. And remember, be nice. 🙂

 

JMK~

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WRITING – MY WORLD, MY ESCAPE~

4 May 2018

 

Hello everyone,

 

I adore escaping to the fictional world where nothing else matters except for the story that is yet to be explored, through your fingers to the computer or laptop keyboard. When I am going through a hard time especially is when this seems like a crucial antidote for me. Well, first and foremost I pray to God about all I’m going through, then I talk with my husband, but then finally, on Tuesdays I escape where nothing else exists except for my story and the characters within it.

 

Right now, I am in the 4th editing phase of revising my manuscript, The Dead Sister. Editing is my least favorite part about writing, because of how in depth it is and how I always keep finding things to revise. But then, I always keep thinking about Stephen King, who after twenty-some revisions of his book, Carrie, was encouraged by his wife to try just one more time. I enjoy hearing encouraging stories like that, and it makes me even more excited about the future possibility that I am praying for – a chance for my book to end up on bookstore shelves. It’s one of my dreams in life, and God willing, it will work! But in the mean time, I’m going to keep doing what I’m doing and working my hardest with my writing and editing.

 

When I was growing up and in my teen years, much like today, writing was my escape. I thought about my current WIP each and every day. Whenever I endured school embarrassment about my quiet and sometimes shy personality, I always thought to myself that it would be a much better day once I was sitting on my bed writing. I began with notebooks and then gradually typed it all up on the computer. But since us early 2000s kids had only one computer at home and had to share it, I devoted the majority of my time sitting on my bed with the door closed, music blaring, writing my stories out until I could barely move my hands.

 

Does writer that may be reading this understanding where I’m coming from, or who came from similar backgrounds?

 

I had homework anyway, which was the least of my concerns. More than anything, all I wanted to do as a career was to be a freelance author – and it remains the same way today. That yearning inside of you for that perfect career quite simply never goes away. All you want to do is to sit at your desktop computer / laptop and write until you can’t write anymore. I’ve learned so much about writing, though. First, I wrote lots of letters to authors when I was growing up, who all taught me so much about writing and the importance of it. Secondly, I read and read and read. Not only did I read other novels, but I also read a lot about publishing, editing, and how to write certain topics and how to revise your manuscripts well enough. Thirdly, I went to college for a major in English, and graduated five years later with a Bachelor of Arts degree in English, an emphasis in Writing. During that time, I learned so much about writing, editing, publishing, and the overall art of being a writer than I ever thought I would learn. I adored the professors that I learned my education from, and sometimes I still think about them in how they influenced my life.

 

As a writer, you do so much reading. Read and read and read. I read novels not only because I enjoy a good story, but also because I want to learn how the author wrote that particular book. Besides thinking of the overall plot of the book, I’m also thinking about how the author would’ve come to certain scenes, how they’re gradually developing more and more suspense in the book, etc. And you write a lot, as often as you can. When you’re not writing, deep in the recesses of your brain, you’re planning what to do and write about next. You plan a lot – even behind the scenes. If you ever see me gazing off into space where I’m not watching TV, most of the time I’m planning a book scene or thinking about my books. (That is, after I finish thinking about God and my husband of course.) Also, in my experience, it’s also important to develop several different social media pages and have a whole bunch of strangers follow you – and create your own blog to freely write about anything you want. Or, at least, anything that will benefit people the best. For example, you’ll never find me writing about political ideals on here, because of all the controversy it creates. And it’s not the most positive of things to talk about. Just like you’ll never see me writing about anything too negative on here – and I make sure that my own stories always have a happy ending as well. Because life is too short to think so much on the negative or on things that may just depress somebody in the world today. It’s much better and more fun and more fun to give people a positive experience by your writing as opposed to not. (Another case in point: I’d never read a Stephen King novel, although I have. He is a magnificent writer, but I greatly dislike horror stories.)

 

Anyone who ever thinks that writing is NOT an art needs to look up in Webster’s dictionary and do much more thorough research to realize what true art really is. It’s not just acting and painting and sculpting. Writing is also an art. I have truly been blessed by God with this amazing talent of writing. Inspiration is a daily friend to me, and I even have an app on my phone called Bear (I highly suggest this app to all writers) that helps me organize the writer thoughts in me when I am not at home, or away from my home office desk in general. Writing is a hobby that I will constantly endeavor for, no matter if I have children, am in the process of raising children, or no matter how busy I am in my life otherwise. Hobbies like this must never leave you, because it’s part of who you are and how God created you so beautifully. Aside from God and my husband and dreams, writing is my life, and I would never think in a million years of giving it up.

 

So you out there – yes, you. Refuse to give up on those aspirations of yours, of your hobbies and dreams. Don’t ever give them up EVER!!! Because God created them as part of you, and with His help, you will never lose them. Writing is more of an art, too. It’s your world, your escape.

 

And it’s mine, too.

 

Have a good Spring, everyone 🙂

 

JMK~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reprise: Too Much Technology?

November 28, 2016

 

 

Hello everyone,

 

Is there such a thing as too much technology? I enjoy technology as much as the next person. I have an iPhone 6 Plus, a Samsung tablet, two laptops, and a desktop computer. So I guess you can say that technology is the thing of the present and of the future. Everybody wants the latest and greatest thing. But for me, there’s such a thing as going too far with technology and being just right with technology. Let me give you an example:

 

Sunday night, I was sitting on our apartment couch watching “WALL-E” (love that movie), when I noticed a weird toothbrush commercial. It was essentially a Colgate advertisement that was advertising not only a fancy electric toothbrush–but one that a teeth whitener inside the toothbrush. So then, all you have to do when you’re done brushing is whiten your teeth!

 

Ahem. What? I don’t even whiten my teeth. They’re white enough. I remember thinking, what’s going to be next, toothpaste built into the toothbrush so that we don’t have put it on the toothbrush ourselves? Have we really gotten that  lazy where we depend on technology to do our work for us? Using technology for work and writing, I understand that. Do we need a Bluetooth? Sure, for work. But could we live without it? Yes.

 

I’m the type of person who would never buy a Kindle or a Nook. When my book comes out in e-Format, of course I’ll have to get the app where I can locate it. But that’s necessity. I don’t need to buy an electronic version of a book, because I’m perfectly happy holding an actual book in my hands. I like the smell of the book, the feeling of the crisp, soft pages within my hand, like you’re holding the whole world within your fingertips. Having technology as a necessity is much, much different than needing to buy the latest and greatest thing. I’m fine with holding off from getting technology that I really don’t need. Sure, I may like it and think it’s cool, but whenever I see advertisements on TV doting the thought that one day, we’re going to rely upon technology for pretty much everything, I always have one single thought. And that thought is, will buying all these new technological stuff enhance my eternity one day? I won’t be able to bring any technology with me. In the Bible, you don’t hear about angels flipping through their iPads.

 

Think it over: when technology becomes less of a necessity and more of a want, such as absurd things like a teeth whitener in a toothbrush, are we really thinking it through? Don’t get me wrong: I love technology. Technology has gotten us so far, and I love that it has. I would love to get the newest iPhone, newest Apple Watch, and so forth. But when technology has gotten so far that it does work for us or work where settlers in pioneer times did fine without, that’s a completely different story. If you’ve ever seen the Robin Williams movie, “Bicentennial Man,” you realize he’s a robot who becomes the family servant and does everything for them. They have flying cars that drive for them, and so forth. That’s technology, just that toothbrush, that has gotten way out of hand.

 

It’s fine to get things for necessity, or even to buy the latest and greatest technological gadget. But when you buy something that does something that you yourself are perfectly capable of doing, that’s going too far. And remember, folks, when you are buying this new technology, that one day when you die, you won’t be able to take any of that with you. Oh, you may have your loved ones bury these things in the casket with you, but they’re not really going with you. Not at all. Buying  new technology stuff is fun. But don’t let technology run your life. For example, as a parent, I would never allow my child to use a tablet. I grew up just fine without one. I would never buy a tootbrush that does more than brushes your teeth. Who knows, maybe one day it’ll floss for you too. I would never buy a Kindle or Nook, because you can buy and check out actual books the same way.

 

I saw this “Born Loser” comic one time where the main guy, the born loser guy, ran into his neighbor’s little girl. He said he was off to the library and asked the girl if she wanted to come with. The girl then went on about how cool the library is, that you can use the computer and check out movies. The born loser guy said, “You know, when I was your age, we didn’t have such things in the library.” Then, the little girl replied, “Then what was the library even used for?”

 

How sad is that. The Spanish word for books is libros. The word LIBRARY is testament of that. I even am still surprised to see computer laps in libraries, unless it’s a college or high school ibrary, because libraries went on just fine without technology when I was a little girl. My mom would bring my sisters and I to the library to READ BOOKS. There were no computers, etc there. It was all books. Books, books, books. And you know what? We were perfectly happy because books was all we wanted.

 

If you’re confused by now on whether or not you think I enjoy technology, don’t be. I do enjoy technology. But the bottom line is that we don’t need technology for everything. We shouldn’t let technology run our lives. Focus on God, family, and friends first, and then use technology as a necessity first. That’s how you became a happier person, not by technology.

 

By the way, my book, “The Magic Suitcase: Martha” is now on Netgalley to be reviewed. You may review it HERE before you buy it.

 

Have a good week, everyone.🙂

Too Much Technology?

Too Much Technology?

Hello everyone,

 

Is there such a thing as too much technology? I enjoy technology as much as the next person. I have an iPhone 6 Plus, a Samsung tablet, two laptops, and a desktop computer. So I guess you can say that technology is the thing of the present and of the future. Everybody wants the latest and greatest thing. But for me, there’s such a thing as going too far with technology and being just right with technology. Let me give you an example:

 

Sunday night, I was sitting on our apartment couch watching “WALL-E” (love that movie), when I noticed a weird toothbrush commercial. It was essentially a Colgate advertisement that was advertising not only a fancy electric toothbrush–but one that a teeth whitener inside the toothbrush. So then, all you have to do when you’re done brushing is whiten your teeth!

 

Ahem. What? I don’t even whiten my teeth. They’re white enough. I remember thinking, what’s going to be next, toothpaste built into the toothbrush so that we don’t have put it on the toothbrush ourselves? Have we really gotten that  lazy where we depend on technology to do our work for us? Using technology for work and writing, I understand that. Do we need a Bluetooth? Sure, for work. But could we live without it? Yes.

 

I’m the type of person who would never buy a Kindle or a Nook. When my book comes out in e-Format, of course I’ll have to get the app where I can locate it. But that’s necessity. I don’t need to buy an electronic version of a book, because I’m perfectly happy holding an actual book in my hands. I like the smell of the book, the feeling of the crisp, soft pages within my hand, like you’re holding the whole world within your fingertips. Having technology as a necessity is much, much different than needing to buy the latest and greatest thing. I’m fine with holding off from getting technology that I really don’t need. Sure, I may like it and think it’s cool, but whenever I see advertisements on TV doting the thought that one day, we’re going to rely upon technology for pretty much everything, I always have one single thought. And that thought is, will buying all these new technological stuff enhance my eternity one day? I won’t be able to bring any technology with me. In the Bible, you don’t hear about angels flipping through their iPads.

 

Think it over: when technology becomes less of a necessity and more of a want, such as absurd things like a teeth whitener in a toothbrush, are we really thinking it through? Don’t get me wrong: I love technology. Technology has gotten us so far, and I love that it has. I would love to get the newest iPhone, newest Apple Watch, and so forth. But when technology has gotten so far that it does work for us or work where settlers in pioneer times did fine without, that’s a completely different story. If you’ve ever seen the Robin Williams movie, “Bicentennial Man,” you realize he’s a robot who becomes the family servant and does everything for them. They have flying cars that drive for them, and so forth. That’s technology, just that toothbrush, that has gotten way out of hand.

 

It’s fine to get things for necessity, or even to buy the latest and greatest technological gadget. But when you buy something that does something that you yourself are perfectly capable of doing, that’s going too far. And remember, folks, when you are buying this new technology, that one day when you die, you won’t be able to take any of that with you. Oh, you may have your loved ones bury these things in the casket with you, but they’re not really going with you. Not at all. Buying  new technology stuff is fun. But don’t let technology run your life. For example, as a parent, I would never allow my child to use a tablet. I grew up just fine without one. I would never buy a tootbrush that does more than brushes your teeth. Who knows, maybe one day it’ll floss for you too. I would never buy a Kindle or Nook, because you can buy and check out actual books the same way.

 

I saw this “Born Loser” comic one time where the main guy, the born loser guy, ran into his neighbor’s little girl. He said he was off to the library and asked the girl if she wanted to come with. The girl then went on about how cool the library is, that you can use the computer and check out movies. The born loser guy said, “You know, when I was your age, we didn’t have such things in the library.” Then, the little girl replied, “Then what was the library even used for?”

 

How sad is that. The Spanish word for books is libros. The word LIBRARY is testament of that. I even am still surprised to see computer laps in libraries, unless it’s a college or high school ibrary, because libraries went on just fine without technology when I was a little girl. My mom would bring my sisters and I to the library to READ BOOKS. There were no computers, etc there. It was all books. Books, books, books. And you know what? We were perfectly happy because books was all we wanted.

 

If you’re confused by now on whether or not you think I enjoy technology, don’t be. I do enjoy technology. But the bottom line is that we don’t need technology for everything. We shouldn’t let technology run our lives. Focus on God, family, and friends first, and then use technology as a necessity first. That’s how you became a happier person, not by technology.

 

By the way, my book, “The Magic Suitcase: Martha” is now on Netgalley to be reviewed. You may review it HERE before you buy it.

 

Have a good week, everyone. 🙂

 

JMK~